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writes: I was at my b/f's the other night and his ex called at 4am she was crying ...i pretended i was sleeping and he kept telling her he had to go when i got up he finally hung up on her...am i making a huge deal over nothing? or do you think it is something?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2005): deres more den meets the eye, ur bf n his ex r still seein each other, or was until he ended it, n shes upset cos she still luvs her
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reader, angle_eyes10 +, writes (6 December 2005):
hi, im sorry you feel so muddled, i can try and give you some advice, but it's up to you how you eventually deal with this. how long were they going out before? how long has it been since they have finished? how long have you two been together? and are they still friends? these are some things which i think you could have added so we can have a clearer picture, but going from what you've said this is what i think...first of all he's with you. an ex is an ex for a reason. if things were great between them, they would still be togeter. at the end of the day, your boyfriend cant really control who calls him or at what time, unless he changes his number or blocks her from ringing his phone, all a bit drastic though, lol.there could be a few reasons why shes rung, 1) they are still friends, this does happen. some exes manage to remain friends, and sometimes when your really upset you know you can call your freinds day or night, maybe it was all really innocent.2) she wants to get back with him. something which no current gf wants to hear, but the fact that he hung up could mean that he dosnt want to know what she has to say and was worried that you may get the wrong end of the stick if you wake up to hear him having a lenghty conversation about why they broke up.3) they are having an affair. this seems really unlikly, speaking from past experiance, people who have affairs go out of their way to hide the fact that they are playing the field, so a phone call from his"mistress" at stupid o clock in the morning is highly unlikely it's natural for you to feel something is going on. id worry if you thought nothing of it! i'd suggest taking a day or so, write all your worries down to get it out of your system, then, when you feel a bit calmer, talk to him about it. dont go at him like a bull to a red cloth. If it is all innocent hes likely to think your a bit over possesive. just say to him that you felt a little bit unconfortable with her phoning him at night. say naturally that you feel worried. if she isnt a friend of his anymore and sees how worried you are, then next time if she calls he should say that the calls are upsetting you and that maybe the best person to call if shes still upset is one of her female friends.i wouldnt suggest searching through his phone to see if hes called her since or vice versa as that would only lead to paranoia, and would make you look awful if he caught you. just calmly say that you didnt feel comfortable, which you have a right to say, after all how would he feel if it was reversed? i hope this hepls, but when you feel so worried, it's best to talk. angel.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2005): well, i would be suspicious myself. i think u should ask him about it he will be in the position to set u right and clear ur doubts. it all depends on u really whether u trust this guy enough. dont make such a big issue about it with him just inquire and let him know it bothered u. take care and wish u all the best
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reader, chav123 +, writes (6 December 2005):
I am sorry to say this but I think you are making a big deal why don't you ask him what she was saying to him just try and sort it out between each other
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