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writes:I am a 20 old ladie, i have been with my boyfriend Bob for 5 years, last year we bought a house together. Recently he has changed, he goes out every weekend taking drugs and drinking loads doesn't help around the house, its like im living on my own in a one way relationship. Recently i gave up hope in trying to change his ways as i realise you cannot change someone. I am now seeing someone else who is Bob's EX Best Friend. I really like him and he likes me loads 2. We spend as much time as we can together, Every time Bob is out (Which is most of the time) We meet up and stay at a hotel the night. Its great but i don't know if i should cut my ties with Bob and start my single life again, im only young . HeLp Me PlEaSe...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): It's said that leopards never change their spots. Sounds like you'd be better off without him. If he's taking drugs, why not inform the police? You'd have a good reason to kick him out of the house, I would think.Get rid of him before you take up with the next guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you that really helps. I have tried speaking to Bob loads of times and it just happened one night that i met his EX and we clicked. Im also worried about where i would live and selling the house. It all seems like allot of hassle and i would rather try and sort things out. But just don't know if he will change.
Thanks again.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (9 August 2007):
 If would appear that you are just sharing a house, not in a relationship.I think you need to tell Bob that you need time alone to decide on where your relationship is going as you feel that you are unrespected in this relationship and you're unsure of where it's going.
While being single, you need to decide who you want to be with and when you decide you stick to ONE of them because going between them will only cause you more problems. Seeing his ex best friend behind his back won't solve the problem of Bob going out all the time, you should really have spoken to him about how you felt before you went with someone else to feel cared about. But as it's too late, I suggest you spend some time alone to figure out what you want. Just my opinion but I hope I helped. Take care.
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