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writes:i have been with my fiance for 6 years and we have a 4 year old son together, we split up recently because he hit me, but i forgave him, i love him so much and he said he finished so he doesnt do it again, which i do understand, but if you love someone you try to work things out but he says he is sick of tryin and he will always love me, i hate the thought of him being with someone else, even though he said he wants to be on his own and he needs space.ive done all the texting and i get its over, he has moved out, recently he said i have pushed him away, we argued all the time but we love each other so much, i dont want to hear im better off without him cause he a good man, he gave me everything, he said he would never finish with me and he has now im heartbroke please help me x
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (27 April 2008):
 This is like the winter season in your world.
There is nothing much you can do about the cold but to only hunker down and wait till winter is over .
Meanwhile ,find something worthwhile to occupy your time and when summer comes, the sun will shine again.
It is when you stay apart, that you really miss each other .
If you are meant to be together, nothing will break you apart.
Don't give up hope but continue to pray for his coming home to you.
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reader, gayuncleandy  +, writes (27 April 2008):
 You need to feel heartbroken to feel complete. You know the answer. He is not for you. Let him and you move on. Maybe in time there may be something but you need to grow on your own into your own woman. This is a time of distance. Be strong and accept it. It is OK to still love him, but love yourself and your son first. Let him sort things out. Time by yourself at this time is preferable. To chase him will chase him away.
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reader, baby duck  + ♥, writes (27 April 2008):
 Find a quiet spot and ask yourself why you want someone that does not want to be with you. The true answer cannot be based on what you had together because you no longer have it. The true answer lies in the reality of the present moment.
Yes, your heart is broken. It takes time to get over a broken heart and just like love cannot be rushed, neither can healing.
If he needs to be alone, it is because he recognizes something inside needs attending by him, and he cannot do it when he is focused on a relationship with another. This is a normal, healthy part of the adult maturation process.
Step back. Give him room. In fact, this is the perfect time for you to do the same thing. The future has many possibilities: you both grow and heal and move on ... you both grow and heal and reunite ... one or both of you gets into a new relationship before you are ready and repeats unhealthy behaviors ... etc
I am sorry that you hurt, but I know that what you are going through is as much a part of real life as cutting teeth or growing pains in your legs.
Spend time alone. Spend time with friends. Journal. Sit in a quiet spot and feel your feelings without analyzing them.
Best wishes.
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