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writes:my boyfriend dumped me through a txt mssg and i never contacted him or asked for us to sort things out,due to the fact i had enough of his behaviour and attitude towards the relationship,now a month later he has contacted me to have a go at me,but i have been strong and not answered or responded to him,why is he doing this what is he expecting to gain,why cant he just leave things as they are since he was the one who did the dumping,i am at the half way mark of coping without him and i was doing ok but him getting intouch has set me back a little and making me unsettled what more can i do Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2010): He wants to talk,ok. Tell him that its as far as its getting and u only give your body to someone if your a couple and if you are after 4 months then ok.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (4 August 2010):
 Sounds like he wants some action, ex's often text us at random times in our life..but its really just for some action. Do they really care about how were currently doing? No, theyre more concerned about what were doing this weekend and if were still on the pill. If he broke up with u in a text then he doesnt even deserve to be used as a booty call. I would just ignore it and go on about ur business
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2010): http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-love-this-man-but-we-have-trust.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2010): earlier days....http://www.dearcupid.org/question/caught-my-gf-with-a-date-site-profilecan.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2010): http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-accused-me-of-flirting-online-when-i.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2010): http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-kind-of-person-does-this-to-someone.html
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reader, asap09marc +, writes (2 August 2010):
 babes,ur not sayin this is still goin on ru? just tell him its all in his imagination.i`ll back u up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): Cheeky devil!!! If you can manage your feelings,you will know what he likes. He must be missing it. Could be needs a good dose of what he has lost. When he calls the next time after that,ignore his call. He will wonder what is going on then. The cheeky monkey!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): i would give the naughty man the time of his life. it may be the wake up call that he needs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): If its a set back then do not go there and keep it like that. If you can cope with no commitment off him then give it to him hard and wicked. He needs to know you are the baddest bitch he will ever meet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): Some body is sayin something. Dont reply it will get him angry and let him calm down. He feels hurt about some thing. What ever it is will fade an leave it that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): Have a go? Do you mean an argument or booty call?
An argument then leave it there,replying will only make him worse.
An encounter,then if you need a bit of fun and u both have no one else,as he's no stranger then go for it. Might realise what he's lost. Its your shout.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): Sounds like something has been said to him or he's learned something he wasnt supposed to. Whatever he said should give you indication. If he doesnt get in touch just leave it. He's obviously seeing things very different than you and is likely to provoke more bad feeling. His bad attitude hasnt come out of nowhere. He feels an injustice about something.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): Since he was the dumper, he has work to do if he has a shot at you.
I can understand not responding. It could be legitimate; he really misses you, or, it could be a booty call; finding out if he can still drag you along.
This is a tough call because I see you care, and who's to say if he's a changed person or just wants to swirl his ego around your head for awhile.
If his communication is groveling, different, genuine, crawling to you, I'd respond. If his message was the same old attitude, and not remorseful or penitent, I'd probably just let the pain happen and choose to accept this loss of opportunity.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (2 August 2010):
 Sounds weird that he would contact you out of the blue just to 'have a go' at you?? Is he in contact with any of your friends?, did you say anything to them about him?
The fact that he is angry towards you indicates that the relationship is over...your doing ok, you know you don't want to go back so I would just ignore it and keep moving foward.
Also change your number, then he cant contact you.
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