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writes:i need seriouse advise. i have been dating this guy for 1 year now and it has trully been an emotional roller coaster, he foudn me at my weakest point and some how i feel in love with him, which surprised me. im tired of not being able to be "official" we haven made our relationship "official" ..every time i bring it up about being ina relationship he tells me what he always says.."i dont wanna fall n love" ...or i dont wanna be tide down" ...basically im putting my self in a place where is really hard for me to understand where this relationship is going..he makes me happy we act like we are boyfriend and girlfriend i know his family and my family know him but we just dont have that tittle...he tells me he loves and cares for me but he doesnt want to be committed..i dont know what to do i tried everything..i think?? help? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you!! it really helps alot to hear other ppls advice...recently i just left him...it is extremely hard not being able to talk to him on a daily basis and be with him...but i know i have to do whats best for me...i know somewhere in his heart he loves me...he is deff not in the right time to have a gf he is too caught up wit his friends, and seeing what other women he can find out there and i know he will never find some one like me..i have been there thru everything with him ups downs everything..i have taken all the non sences that i know alot of women will not... and to that question r4nd0menough2luvu asked "Can you guys fulfill things together?" ....i know we could he is 23 and i am 20 i am way more mature then he is n i always had pushed him to do better in life and i know if he would of given our relationship a try we would have been great ....but i guess now is a matter of time until i get over this broken heart and move on with my life...
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reader, lgonzal2 +, writes (27 March 2009):
 One week two week tops you should have a title of bf gf. A year he should be saying the L word. So tell him if its ok to see other guys since hes not really your boyfriend. If he says go ahead then do it and forget about him. For all you know he may be seeing someone else to. So I wouldn't waste my time with some guy who is scared about having a gf.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (27 March 2009):
 If he won't tell you where he wants this relationship to go, then it isn't going to go anywhere.
I think you've waited long enough. He obviously feels he has some wild oats to sow, and for some reason thinks it is OK for him to waste your time and drag you around.
You are not wrong for at least wanting a title. We all know that a relationship might not last, but at least give it a shot, right?
Dump him, you're better off.
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reader, r4nd0menough2luvu +, writes (27 March 2009):
 well this is a hard one. I think you should talk to him but if he changed the subject or dosent want to its clear he is unsecured. He dosent want to loose you and dosent want to label your relationship yet he wants to go out with you. I think its best to break up and just befriends actually best friends so your still there with him. Also just think about these questions and ask youself can you be with this person your whole life and be really happy? Can you guys fulfill things together? if yes then you don't need to break up. But i think you should break up i don't really think hes ready for a relationship
PS: whatever path you follow i hope you have a happy future =D
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