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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I started being friends with my next door neighbor about seven months after I moved in. We quickly began having sex, talking on the phone and seeing each other practically everyday. He says that I am the closest person to him other than his family. He also says that when he has sex with someone that it does not mean anything. We have helped each other through some tough times and care about each other immensily. However, he recently had a girl spend the night at his house (which he was honest and said he slept with) and did not come home last night. He states that he is not doing anything wrong because he was always open with me saying that we are just friends and that they mean nothing to him but he lost me he would be devastated. Am I being a fool to continue on with this? I do want a relationship with him and he knows that. He states that I am just not what he is looking for. How can we be so close, but him not want me?
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (15 August 2009):
 He just isn't that into you. You can stick around if you're happy with the sex and the friendship, but he was honest with you that you can expect nothing more. If you want a real relationship you need to move on and find someone else.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): you are a mature woman and you know what he is telling you , if you want a f*ck he will be there but there is nothing else going on between you two. he has told you that he will be sleeping with other as well. how safe is he sexually. what can you live with.......just the sex thing but nothing else? if you can then you know the score.
if not, you need to consider what you want from a relationship. committment, monogamous relationship, some love, emotional attachment. if this is what you eventually crave this man is not for you. please do not expect him to change his casual sex attitude, he won't.
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reader, lily13524 +, writes (14 August 2009):
 hunny to me...he was using you in some way to get want he want.and maybe he lied about you being close to him.but it was good to hear yall share everything together and you also helped him in the tough times.pretty much...he sounds like he is not really to settle down with someone yet.you should pretty much move on with your life...
xoxo melly xoxo
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