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30-35,
*renchie
writes:Okay... so i really like this guy and we dated twice... we have made out, kissed, held hands, hugged, he has lifted me up, and i have sorta given him a hand job... he wanted me to give him a blow job... well he went and told my friends that he didnt really like me that much anymore and he was gonna break up wit me so i broke up wit him before he had the chance and well i really like him still i mean i think i love him... and he doesnt feel the same... we are friends with benifits i told him that i wil still do stuff wit him it just wont matter... but i matters to me and i want him back... i am just doing this so that maybe he will start to like me again!!... i love him and all i want is him to love me... what do i do?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (19 March 2009):
Sweetheart, why would you carry on doing sexual stuff for him and basically being his free prostitute when you know he doesn't like you in the way you want him to.
All you are doing is letting him abuse you, and abusing yourself.
You have to take responsibility for this and get some self respect.
Do you honestly think he'll like you more if he thinks you are willing to do sexual stuff for a guy that has openly told her friends he doesn't like her? No, he'll think you are stupid and easy.
If you want him as a boyfriend and he doesn't want you then it's sad but you have to walk away.
He'll probably come back and say some vague stuff about how he really does care about you, because he'll be desperate to keep his blow job girl, but you have to hold your head up and walk away.
No guy is worth whoring yourself out for.
Good Luck!! xx
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2009): You have to forget this guy. He obviously doesn't care about you, treats you like you are a disposable pleasure and then doesn't even have the maturity to stay close-lipped around his friends. Ask yourself why you think you love him? Does he treat you like and equal and respect you? Does he communicate to you that he wants to be with you or wants a future with you? Has he ever told you of his intentions of commitment? NO. Right?
Look we all go through this when we like someone. Sometimes they treat us like s*** and we give them excuses like "they are just stressed or busy" "they just need time". But the truth is that if the person had anything to offer you they would have offered it already.
I don't know you but I can assure you that you DO deserve better. But most important is that YOU believe it! Don't be the desperate girl begging him for affection because he will eventually use the opportunity to get off and you will try to use it to build intimacy (and it won't work). He has already decided that you are not right for each other and you need to work on seeing it too.
Good luck.
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