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writes:I am currently in America, which has a 7 hours of time difference between my country. I will be going back at the end of the summer.I just wanted to give that information, because my problem seems fairly simple. My boyfriend doesn't seem to care about me anymore. I remember the times when we first started dating, which he always asked if i was alright when i was sick and got worried when he couldn't get an answer. Or was jealous a little bit when someone hit on me, and showed that i was his.For quite a time now he doesn't care. When i feel sad or sick, or just want to talk to him really. He doesn't give a damn. Because of the time difference, i feel very much alone at nights because everyone in my country is asleep. And i write him that i love him and miss him. He never answers, pretends that he doesn't sees it. Only writes when he needs something from me in the mornings, or else i have to be the one to try to start a conversation. We did talked about it for months, and actually before i left for America he did broke up with me, crying and telling stuff which later he told me that he was only trying to make things easier. But anyways, after we broke up in an hour or something he called me, told me that he was downstairs at the park in front of our house, ran up and hugged me when he saw me and told me that he'd even marry me if he could. He did had a promise to me saying that he would never be the one to leave me, and was very happy that he kept his promise as well. We spent our last day together and i was really happy, thinking everything would work out. But after a couple of days it all started to sank. He realized that he couldn't got into any of the colleges in our country, and he already lost a year before so he didn't wanted to take a gap year and get into somewhere he didn't even really wanted. But he had the opportunity to go to England which is again, away from my country, studying games technology which is something he wanted more than computer tech. I did get the fear of losing him because i am rather young, and i really don't know what to do in a long distance relationship. I already missed him while i was only away for 2 months, but now for more than 5 year just seemed too much for me. Also he didn't helped much, saying that he was really happy to go and acting like he didn't wanted to visit that much. I really had the desperate need of him telling me some stuff to make me happier, like telling me that he loves me. But one day out of no where, there was another girl character who i am still not sure if is real or not, probably not. I teased him by asking who she was when he only told her name, but then he started to talking all lovey dovey to me using that other name. I did acted like i was her for a bit, but then got mad because he told me that she was his girlfriend from that country, i was his gf from america and he'd find one in england as well. And after that i told him that i was still waiting for him to tell something to make up and end the joke. He told the thing i was trying to hear for a week. 'I love you my one and only [insert the other name here]'I did told him that i would want him to say that to ME, using my name. He never did, still didn't even after weeks went by. I started to get paranoid, because he really didn't even wanted to talk to me anymore, but he was on still every place that we chatted normally. I love him. I really do and in our fights before i'd always feel like everything was going to be okay whenever we talked even though he hurted me very badly. But now, he doesn't think of me as someone important enough to have a proper argument with (which was one of the reasons that we attracted eachother at the first place really, because both of us would listen and give nice thoughts in a chat) and my trust is still a bit shattered after the break up i think, even though he made that night the best. I was feeling so lucky to have him, and couldn't believe that he would want me. I may have the same insecurity still. Today, i asked him something. He completely ignored the question and told something about himself. I made a comment, asked the same thing again. Did the same. When we were on skype we talked about the stuff he wanted to talk about, and then i asked the same thing. He didn't even realized that i asked something. I told him about this thing he's been doing for a while now and he actually did the same thing again afterwards, then realizing and laughing about it. After that, i wrote something and he didn't answered.For hours.He did that before, but it wouldn't be the end of the day usually. He still haven't said anything. I do feel like i should make him come to me a little bit more, because i am always ready to talk whenever he wants. But i do see other couples, who has been dating for a long time and still answers when their girlfriend asks something..What should i feel about this? I really don't know what to do, i don't feel like talking to him anymore that much and i still feel angry towards him even when we do talk. I will take my time to calm down a bit either ways, but i just keep thinking how he doesn't even answer and how we are not like how we used to anymore, not even like in the time we were fighthing. We are not eachothers best friend anymore, and we don't give the priority to talk to eachother. He is polite to everyone and defends our friends, but does the same thing he defended someone for to me. I don't want to be this low on someone's eye. I really want to feel loved and i want to know that he'd be beside me. What should i do? Like i said, i tried talking. I don't know what else i can do.
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reader, Catcasforanta +, writes (24 July 2013):
Catcasforanta is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh, also I had the chance to go with him after a year, going to a high school there. So we had the chance to be together really. But now, he really isn't answering and I don't know what to do. I won't write or pester him anymore, and see what he will do, is this a good idea? Thank you for answering by the way.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (24 July 2013):
 Long distance relationships NEVER work at your age. I'm sorry to say this to you and I know it's not what you want to hear...
I think it's best also if you two just part ways and move on in life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2013): IM sorry to say this but i would just cut all contact he has lost interest i would move on and meet someone who is worthy of you he sounds as though hes not interested in anything you say to him communication is the key in relationships if he cant communicate with you there is no point
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