A
female
age
41-50,
*owera
writes:Dear Cupid,I a 31 years of age and have been dating this guy who is 39,he was married in 1999 and have a son of 11years and after they got married they family left for england and the man came back the wife stayed there she only came back last year april all along he has been telling me that they are still sorting out issues in their marriage and he is not happy the wife is talkative and does not respect him which i have seen the text messages which are rude and in march the guy was chased out of the house which they built together when they were in england and because of this he has told me that they have discussed to sell the house only when will he move out.But now the problem which i have is he is bringing up issues that i am seeing someone and i do not feel for him anymore mind you i have been going out with person since 2006 and i do not like his comments what should i do? i love this guy and i know he does too and we have plans which are already underway.
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reader, hopeFUL_romantic_13  +, writes (21 June 2011):
Please try to be a little more considerate and understanding. He is still dealing with marital issues and needs all the support he can get, especially from you. His previous marriage did not end too well. Perhaps his paranoia of you being unfaithful is an excuse for him to no longer have a relationship. He could be have doubts about sharing his future with another woman. Been there. Done that. Got the tee shirt to prove it. I'm not saying this reason is valid! I tend to look to deep into certain matters seeing how I find it hard to be with a guy. My past relationships were disappointing to say the least. Whenever a guy shows interest in me now, I tend to come up with some excuse as to why I shouldn't give them a chance. I'm sorry that I'm babbling. Sit down and converse with him. Ask him why he feels like he can't trust you etc. See if he is having doubts about you two being together. Sometimes when a person has doubts, they'll make any excuse they can to cut the link from the situation to the mental conflict instead of facing the problem head-on.
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