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writes: I've been with my current boyfriend for almost 3 month. He told me that trust was most important to him, because he told me his fiancee before had cheated on him on the day before they wanted to get back together after a big fight. I like him very much because he's very affectionate and hugs and kisses me more than he talks to his mates when we're around them! And he keeps saying we're going to make it together.However, when we were waiting for a train, I wanted to play some games on his handphone, and when I looked through it he took it out of my hand and looked for the games for me...it just bothers me because it seems like he doesn't want me to look through his phone...am I maybe too paranoid? What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2008): 3 months is a very short time to be going through the fone to 'play games'. wat you have to understand is that just becuase he doesnt share every gritty detail of his personal life with you doesnt mean there's a reason not to trust. i dont like ppl going through my fone, because its personal and has texts in there that arent bad or betraying, but just stuff that i wouldnt post on my blog!!
im sure you understand wat im talking about. again 3 months is way too short a time to be snooping through a fone. why not read his emails and diary while your at it?
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reader, uraqt9697  +, writes (13 July 2008):
If you are looking for something, you are going to find it.
I am completley faitful to the person Im with, and do not share steamy text messages with others, or engage in bad behavior over the phone, BUT if my boyfriend were looking thorugh my phone, I think I would be a little nervous that he would question me about every little thing, and who has time for that?
I agree with everyone else, the trust is either there, or it isnt....with the snooping comes the questions, and that can be VERY draining when you havent done anything wrong.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (13 July 2008):
 or you are being invasive of his personal space-sorry but three months is not a long time and to be fair why should you look through his private discussions when as you say yourself he pays more regard to you than his mates when you're all together. things are good as they are, there's no need to over do it...
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reader, xXalmostanangelXx +, writes (13 July 2008):
Hey, Ive been there hun, and it is an awful feeling to bottle up. You should ask him right out otherwise you'll drive yourself crazy worryin about it.. there may not be anything to it, it could just be boyz talk that he doesnt want u to see, or something private to him.. the again it might not. You'll be able to tell alot by his reaction when you ask him. If its innocent then whats the problem. If he cares about u he'l explain it cos he wont want u worryin. good luck hun xx
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reader, bebe girlie  +, writes (13 July 2008):
Hey , well since he took the phone from you it means there are some stuff on his phone he was afraid ud see...for example maybe something he saved from the past .. or maybe a girl......before i married my husband we have been dating for 2 years and the same shit happened..his phone was so precious .. he never let me touch it or maybe even play a game... i made excuses for it and tried to ignore it because i was afraid to lose him or worse yet face a truth of him cheating on me...it wouldve killed me .. anyway i did ignore it and play stupid and now we are married...2 month ago there was a msg.. and ofcourse since im his wife i have the right to look .. and the msg was from a girl since the day he was in college saying hi and miss u.. (blast from the past)...so we had a fight and he changed his number...i guess all guys have a past and tons of girls and there is nothing we can do about that.. Just keep ur eyes OPEN...
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Hiba
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