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writes:Big problem here, really need some help now.I have been with my partner for over a year now.We started off so happy and I fell for him instantly!For the first 6 months it was pure bliss, we was in love and everybody thought we was brilliant together.Then everything just went wrong, he started controlling me and telling me what to do and who I can be friends with etc..I have ended it a few times already but always gone back to him because I just cant be away from him!Even though he has used physical abuse as well as emotional.He also does little things to annoy me all the time and it drives me insane!And, we have to speak on the phone all the time 'cos he says so!' and i am scared to disagree, i have before and it hasnt gone well.So I do everything he says. I am scared it is going to get even worse, I am so trapped.I dont want to leave him because I dont want him 2 be with anybody else, and I dont think I will find anybody else.Everything is so messed up, he controls my life and pisses me off so much! But yet I still feel like I need him.Its driving me insane and I am getting depressed!Please Help.Thank you.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (14 April 2009):
 hun!you don't feel you need him at all you're too scared to leave him that's why you go back you're so scared that you think he will come after you.and you probably don't want him to be with anyone else because the way he is towards you and you don't want that to happen to another girl like you.you really should talk to someone about what's going on because you are so young and you shouldn't have to feel trapped in your relationship with him and you should definitely not be doing what you are told by him!you're a grown woman for gods sakes!you have your friends and family and if he doesn't like it well that's too bad!you definitely should speak to your friends or maybe a counsellor?someone older at least someone who can help you get out of this hell hole.you are so young and so scared and this shouldn't be happening to you.and you don't need him but he has grinded you down so much to believe that you do need him and you will definately find someone else him on the other hand will have a major problem especially the way he treats girls.you'll definately find someone and someone who is a billion times better than this jerk!!hope this helps you hun!please feel free to message me at anytime i'll help you anyway i can :)Chin up!
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reader, LoveAngel216  +, writes (14 April 2009):
 Well in my opinion i definitely think you should leave him. Any male who abuses a woman physically and/or mentally is weak and has issues within himself. But i also understand that he sounds violent and since you've gone back to him multiple times and you've been with him for about a year it wont be that easy for him to give you up. So he may threaten you or something along those lines. But you really dont need to be with him. Yea you say you need him and you dont think you can find anyone like him but you can!!! You deserve to be treated with respect and not abused. You dont need a man in your life thats going to put you down. It may seem hard to leave him at first but you will feel so much better when/if you do. You dont need him!!!!
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