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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I’m really confused, nearly two years ago I dated this guy and he really hurt me. He messed me about and he stood me up and never contacted me until seven months later. He apologised and explained he lost my contact number etc. I didn’t want anything to do with him. Recently he contacted me and he said he still likes me. He explained that when he was seeing me he was getting over his ex. He wanted to see me but I didn’t feel ready to see him, plus I’m in my final year at uni. We talked online and I started to like him again but I didn’t want him to know how I felt as I might get hurt again. Sometimes I’d look at his myspace profile just to keep an eye on him and it said he was single. Two months later I emailed him and said I wanted to meet up with him after my exams. He agreed to see me and then I checked his myspace and discovered he’s in a relationship. In the end I told him that I didn’t want any contact from him. I don’t understand why did he bother contacting me, is he using me??? I just want to know your perspective on this guy. Thanks
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reader, miss fit +, writes (4 May 2007):
a**hole- a man who hurts women, stands them up and doesn't contact then for 7 months and then lies about being in a realtionship.your ex- a man who hurts women, stands them up and doesn't contact them for 7 months and then lies about being in a.relationship.tell this straight to his face and walk out. cue the chorus of respect by aretha franklin. yeah!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2007):
Thanks for the advice but I know for a fact he's in a relationship. I saw photos of them together. On the woman's profile she has a photo with him which says "this is my new boyfriend". That's how I know they are togther. I think I should move on with my life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2007): One step at a time.
If he can learn to treat you with the respect and loyalty due to a friend, then you can consider him for more... later. Right now, he has to earn his place back in your life.
As for MySpace's relationship indicator, I think you should ignore it. He may have changed it to "In a relationship" right after you sent him an email saying you wanted to meet up again.
But if you think he's worthy enough to date, then he should be worthy enough to be a friend... Minimally. So give him a chance to be a friend. If he can handle that with dignity and honor, then maybe the time for you two is bound to happen. If he's still a shady little POS as just a friend, then you'll have dodged that bullet without throwing yourself deep into another intimacy snafu.
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reader, 19BFL  +, writes (4 May 2007):
It sounds as though he regreted treating you badly in the first place and i think this is the reason it took him seven months to contact you again.
However when you contacted him to meet up, what man would turn down an opportunity like that even if thet they are in a relationship.
in my opinion i think he is using you at the momment, but if you do like him alot, wait until he is out of the relationship the last thing you want is to be blamed for breaking the couple up.
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