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writes: HiI was in a 3 and a half year relationship that just ended. He broke up with me saying that he wasn't happy anymore. I later found out that he had been talking to his ex-girlfriend who had cheated on him. I confronted him about this and he said that he was confused. He think's he wants to be with her, but isn't sure. He has now decided to take some time alone to figure out what he wants. At first I thought I still had feelings for him because we had been together so long, that I grew comfortable with him. But, given all that I have discovered in the past few weeks, I realize that it is so much more. I want him back. He was finally honest with me the last time we talked. Is there any hope for us? I really want this to work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2006): Leave him alone, dear and get on with your life. You were in a relationship with this guy for 3 years and you state he "was finally honest with me the last time we talked". Relationships need a foundation of trust and being honest and truthful, at all the time-builds that trust. you didn't have this, in the first place. Added to that, if someone told me he wanted to 'be with an ex but wasn't sure", I would take that as 'No'. No woman wants to come in as 2nd best to an ex gf- you should expect to be number one. He is confused. I would find someone else for my interests. It is important to listen to what this guy says to you and how it relates to you and what type of future you will have with him. Right now, any future with this fellow, looks too shaky and you could set yourself up for more hurt. Walk away from this and face the loss.
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reader, thebestof the rest +, writes (2 June 2006):
he obviously needs some time to figure this out and you should to but if you think your sure then dont want to long for this guy if he was a real men then he wouldnt leave you hanging like this try and go and meet someone new it might be hard at first but you have to do this at the minute this guy is in a perfect situation a mean come on he has got to girls practicly fighting over him and its not everyday that, that happens so it is either you or this girl but try and meet someone new and have two guys fighting over you for a change you love fo him will soon fade if is meant to be or not just take my advice and dont wait around to long let him have one week two tops but no more then you start doing your own thing trust me on this XxXxXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2006): I'm sorry to have to say this, but if he really wanted you then he wouldn't even have to take time alone. He would be with you! Maybe it's his way of letting you down gently....give up on him, you deserve so much better. if someone genuinely loved you then they would never want to hurt you or jeopardise the relationship.I know its hard because I've been there too, but move on and find someone who really cares about your emotional wellbeing.
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (2 June 2006):
 I say there is hope but keep in mind he obviously has feelings for his ex. To be honest, his honesty is giving him the chance to have his cake and eat it to. Instead of just sitting around and waiting to see if he chooses you go out and do your own soul searching. Find whats right for you because whats right for him is not always whats right for you. One day you could be that ex he runs back to and do you want someone so fickle. Good Luck.
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