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writes:I have been dating a guy for 10 years - We don't live together and he can never commit to making a plan to do anything in advance. I feel like I am always begging him to spend time with me and then sit around and wait for him to decide what he wants to do - Does this seem fair?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Royofthe Rovers  +, writes (3 June 2007):
 10 years is a long time for two people to know each other so he should know you know you inside out by now.
He should also know what his intentions are with you and be more commited towards the relationship than he is currently showing.
His lack of planning is his way of keeping things at bay and ensuring he has an element of control over the way things proceed in the relationship. But this is not fair on you who wants plan ahead and see a future together.
I would seriously consider your future with this person if you want any kind of commitment with him. tell him your concersn as best you can and go from there, but dont let your love for him let you steer you from the things that you really want from your life.
All the best...
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reader, DV1 +, writes (3 June 2007):
 No, it doesn't. You shouldn't have to beg for him to see you. When a guy is really in love with a girl, he can't stop thinking about her, and wants to see her. Otherwise he just doesn't care. Don't waste your time with him.
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