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36-40,
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writes:He blows hot and cold. I have been seeing some guy for about 6 weeks and i don't want to expect too much and think he has to be in touch all the time, but i also dont want to think he can treat me however he likes. He was constantly in touch to start with and now he'll text/call randomly maybe after 3/4 days of not hearing from him. Is he just taking it slowly and should i not expect too much or should i just leave it? the last time i saw him he was all me, then heard from him the next day but then nothing for 2 days!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2010): Often in a new relationship, there is a lot of contact at first. After a while, it fades out a little, and is not so regular. That has been my experience anyway. So it could be that. But if it is bothering you, then I think it is something that needs to be discussed with him.
If you don't hear from him for a couple of days, do you think he might be busy? Is there a lot going on in his life? Also, do you ever call or text him, and he just doesn't respond for a few days? Or do you leave it to him to contact you?
If it is always him initiatiing contact, then maybe you could text him every so often too, instead of waiting for him to contact you. But if you do that, and he doesn't respond for a while, I think it might put your mind at ease if you ask him why he does not contact you for a few days, and see what he says. He could be busy, he may not know you would like more regular contact...but I don't think you will know unless you ask. Hopefully, you will be able to explain how you feel and work something out with him. Good luck. x
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