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writes:Okay I was dating a man for a little while and it was great! He was kind handsome attentive and basically just awesome. Unfortunately we had a misunderstanding which first made me pull away and then my distance made him pull away. I also told him that if he wanted friendship I did not have 'sex' with my friends. We weren't intimant all that often but when we were it was amazing . SO now I'm missing him, I let him do the contacting and always respond when he initiates things but he's initiating less now :(. He often indicates that he is the 'man' in otherwords he pays he asks he initiates sex and so on... that is they way he likes it. SO here is my problem since we are now mostly communicating at a distance via computers or phone I don't see him as much. WHen we do get together the chemistry is totally still there. But Iv'e noticed that if I do text or call ... he 'waits' to respond ... basically he doesn't like it he wants to be the one. Soo what do I do? I want to seduce this man back into my life :D but... asking him out isn't a good option. He does seem to come over quick if he thinks I need help with my car, house or whatever but I would feel stupid making something up! And now it has become too strained to just spontaneously meet up like we used to (sigh) so are there any men or women out there that can tell me how to seduce this man with the tools and limitations at hand? WHich is basically him texting , calling or IMing me every couple of days it used to be multiple times daily. Oh another problem is he has moved so now lives about 45 min drive away and basically there isn't any real reason for either of us to be near the other person's part of town. Previously we lived a lot closer and the drive was about 15 min. Oh and one other thing when we don't speak he gets concerned but he's also getting lazy and basically checking to see if I'm on line rather than calling and he seems to avoid calling me on weekends :(. Pretty sure he isn't dating and he sometimes goes out with friends to pubs. But I really feel he's trying to prove that he is busy and is still upset that I wanted a commitment of being his gf or nothing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009): familiar games.So he got upset when you wanted some kind of commitment?This is the situation: he obviously doesn't want the same as you. he wants to full around. And that's what he does.And you're letting him. There is nothing else to expect from this guy, he wants to control the situation, because he is not that much in to you, and he doesn't want to be bothered by spending weekend w/you.Find someone who does wants to spend weekends w/you and looking forward to calls or e-mails.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): You have hurt his feelings. If he is just your friend so should not be getting that close to him. If you want him to be your boyfriend then you have to tell him straight. If you want to be friends he needs to know that. Good luck
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