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female
age
41-50,
*hoenixgirl
writes:Ok, my question is whether I have immediately set up fuck buddy relationship status with this guy. I am generally promiscuous and have had some FBs. I have also had long-term relationships. I know what feelings need and needn't be present for FB-type relationships. I.e. there is a man I have slept with twice and I am fine whether I see him again or not.A couple of weeks ago I went to a social gathering at this guy's house. We have a mutual friend and we bump into each other every so often and chat. We slept together that night and it was 'see you around' in the a.m. After a couple of days, I thought ok, that was a 1 night stand. Sad but hey, as he is really nice. A few days later, he texts and asks me round on the weekend. I went last night and we had a great time drinking, eating and chatting and, later, having sex. I left the next afternoon and it was left up in the air whether we would see each other again. I said 'bye' and he said 'bye'.I do actually like this guy beyond just the sex. We laugh a lot together, have similar values, etc. However, I am worried it's started on the FB footing. I probably slept with him too soon, too. Can I salvage this? Is it something one can only see with time (after all, there is no way I am getting clingy, needy or demanding!) Or is it up to the feelings that evolve on his side rather than the speed with which I slept with him? Oh, alcohol and horniness damn you!Thanks :)
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reader, phoenixgirl +, writes (15 March 2010):
phoenixgirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much and apologies for the delay in doing this! Your advice was correct and I ended it a month later. Now in a proper steady relationship :)
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reader, guywithlove  +, writes (2 August 2009):
well..to be honest ..I would say NO..he wont be in a relationship with a woman who has FB-type relationships...if I had been at his place, i would have slept with you as long as i enjoy you and then would not wanna see you..this is indeed normal men-tendency or would have been like that...so do not waste your time, emotions and energy thinking about having "realtionship" with him...he is just in for free lust-satisfaction which you are very well serving...i would advise you...stop all this and take some time off, think about what you really want in your life..and start looking for a long-term relationship...Just think 15 years from now..do you want yourself to see alone when you wake up and go to bed in the night?..do you want to be by yourself on sat/sun..dont u want a FAMILY - hubby, kids etc??..i guess you know what i mean...
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