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writes:Hi. I am a 19 year old female. I have been with a guy now for a little over 8 months and We both know that we will be together for life. We play around sexually like 3 or 4 times a week. I was a virgin when I met him. At first it started off just kissing and him touching my chest. Then over the months it became more. I was very emotional about the whole thing because I was never one to do these sort of things. He assured me we would not do anything I didnt want and that has been the way it has gone. Recently when we were playing around he was fingering me which Ive done before and then he asked could he put his penis in some. I told him yes and he did it was a big pain but i only bled a little. I made him stop because he did not have a condom. My question is am I still a Virgin? he only put the head of his penis inside me and I think he just might have tore my hymen a little. Its not a big deal if you say Im not and Im not gonna get upset because I want to lose it to him I just want a REAL answer. Also I have heard it hurts alot when a guy puts his penis all the way in.. How much does it hurt??No negative responses please I am an adult and dont need your negativity. Thanks =]
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reader, Lizzieidk +, writes (25 August 2009):
Lizzieidk is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thanks for all the help. For those who said I was young, I am not. I am 19 years old I just kept my innocence I guess. Never once had to worry about things like this because I knew what I wanted. I have what I want now he is not my huband but he will be =] He proposed last night after i posted this. Thanks for the positive feedback. As for the negative im not mad.. Take whatever is thrown at you and run with it. =]]
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reader, Lizzieidk +, writes (25 August 2009):
Lizzieidk is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thanks for all the help. For those who said I was young, I am not. I am 19 years old I just kept my innocence I guess. Never once had to worry about things like this because I knew what I wanted. I have what I want now he is not my huband but he will be =] He proposed last night after i posted this. Thanks for the positive feedback. As for the negative im not mad.. Take whatever is thrown at you and run with it. =]] Thanks!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2009): You gave your most precious gift to someone other then your husband.
I hope he deserves it
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reader, Youngmummy  +, writes (24 August 2009):
 hey
really if he has put his penis even in a little you are not a virgen and i am glad that you are not going to regret it as you remember your first time for the rest of your life it sticks into your head, also i think you are really sensible to tell him to stop as he did not have a condom as you would not like an unplanned pregnancy but even though he just put his penis in a bit you could still have caught an sti so thats worth getting that checked better to be safe as some diesises can make you infertile and even cause death i do not mean to scare you! x
i think you should plan to do it proply and then you can plan to block this memorie out of being your first time and make the otherone be if you get me also its a pain that you have never felt before in a way it hurts but its a pain that brings you closer if you get me email me if you want
i hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2009): Really, your virginity is lost when a penis penitrates the vagina, so technicly you are not a virgin anymore. However, in yor situation, many girls feel that they have retained their virginity as they were not fully penetrated. I heard from some one, "virginity is an idea and not a physical state" and so i guess its a personal choice as to weather or not you are a virgin. Will it hurt? It is different for each person. Some Women find it very painful while others find it painless. Some Bleed alot, some bleed a little. I bled a little. It hurt alot the first time and I felt slight discomfort the second and third time. The more relaxed and sure you are that what you are doing is right, the eaiser it is. I've noticed that women who saved them selves for marriage and women who knew, without a doubt, they were ready, seem to feel the least amount of pain. (p.s. even if he only puts the head in, next time make sure he wears a condom!)Hope this helpsKC x
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (24 August 2009):
 You didn't actually have sex. So technically you're still a virgin.It will only hurt more when he fully penetrates if you're not aroused and your cervix hasn't lifted. But you were fine when he put his head in so I wouldn't worry too much, just make sure you're in the mood when you do it =]
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reader, pinkgoblin15 +, writes (24 August 2009):
 It could actually be that he just tore your hymen. It happened to me, my boyfriend did the same thing and I freaked out and he stopped. I thought I had lost my virginity that night but I was wrong. When we actually did have sex I bled some.. About the hurting part I think it depends on the girl.. It only hurt me for like a minute. It was funny because I was like ow ow ow then I realized It wasn't hurting I was just freaking out lol Cheers 3
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reader, rcn +, writes (24 August 2009):
 This does sound like a younger person's question. From my understanding, penetration = loss of virginity. I don't know if there is a specified distance that penetration would have to be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2009): Is this question for real??
You say you are an adult yet you sound younger than 13...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2009): My wife's situation is the same as yours.
She believes that technically she wasn't a virgin when she met me because of one previous encounter exactly like yours, but what matters to her is that she fully gave herself to me during our first time together, so she thinks of our first time as when she *really* lost it.
It is whatever you want it to be...a practice run maybe?
look on the bright side...I've heard it does hurt, but now some of the work has been already done so you might be more free to enjoy your second "first time".
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