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writes:So I've been messaging this guy and we have a lot in common, I do like him but Saturday we finally got to what we work as and he spoke about a film I've never seen I've told him my current situation which is unemployed and my future situation which is building. I also said to him we should meet up and watch the film I ain't seen. he ain't replied since have I scared him off? It's really silly but I actually look forward to his messages and feelAbit down I ain't heard from him I did ask how his weekend the next day so now I ain't heard from him in 3 days and I'm a little anxious regardless of everything that could happen I just wanna be mates as I've never known someone with as similar taste as me Have I blown it? Reply to this Question
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (21 September 2015):
 I don't think suggesting to see the film scared him off. When you mentioned you are unemployed he's afraid that he would have to foot he bill each time. Being unemployed also means that you have to rely on transportation. Having a job and a car makes your life and others easier. He doesn't have to go out with you if he can find someone else with these privilege. Also online, people regularly disappear without reason, even if they had promised each other to meet. A lot of people go online with the mentality that if it complicates their lives, then it's not worth it. Yes you can take the bus but what usually happens is that people with cars would end up picking you up and dropping you off, then resenting it.
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