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writes:I've been with my BF for about 8 months. In the beginning we stayed up really late just talking, everything was more special when he was around, I was in another world when I was around him, and things just seemed to great.Over the last month or so, these feelings have gone. I still think he's an amazing guy and we still do the same things as before, but those crazy feelings have gone, we don't talk as much but we're comfortable just being in each other's presence. We never argue and he's still very attentive to me.Although I know that the novelty wears off after a while I was wondering if all this is normal. I've never been in a serious relationship so I don't know how to take all this now.My first thought was that this was it and I should break up with him because I wasn't feeling like I was at the beginning. But I think this is the wrong thing to do. I almost know that if I was to break it off, I would eventually find someone else and there would be those sparks to begin with but I'd probably reach the same point and wonder if something's gone wrong.So, how do you tell if the relationship has run its course and is over, or whether you're just going into another stage of it?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (7 April 2010):
 When you start to distance yourself from the other and you argue more often. That's the signal that your relationship is going downhill...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2010): Welcome to the reality stage. You guys have just finished the honeymoon stage of the relationship. It's common in all serious relationships so don't freak out, it's a bit weird at the beginning I know but make the most of it and you'll see things can be just as good regardless of how you're feeling. However from here on both of you guys will start taking note of eachother's flaws so how things will be handled from here on determines whether or not things will last. Don't give him up, it's normal, just make the most of it.
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