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writes:Has anyone suppressed their feelings when it comes to loving someone they're dating? If so.. Did it work? What was the outcome? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 February 2013):
 ah so you have feelings for him and you don't want him to know...
at least that was my first thought....
why do you want to suppress the truth from him?
I mean there are times my hubby pisses me off and I want to tell him what a jerk he is... i suppress those feelings and they pass.... so later on when I tell him what a jerk he is I'm not angry about it....
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (25 February 2013):
 How do you mean? Do you mean that you're dating somebody and you love them, and that you want to suppress it?
Why would you want to? Because it's too soon to bust out the 'love' word, or because they're somebody who you don't want to fall for, somebody "toxic"?
If it's option a) then that's easy. You don't have to "suppress" your feelings per se, just don't meet up on your third date and say "I LOVE YOU". Let the relationship develop a bit. If it's a very new relationship, then let yourself really get to know them, so that you can love THEM instead of your new relationship. The outcome will be a deepened love, and a happy future.
If it's option b) Make a clean break and distract yourself from them. Your feelings will subside, provided you don't feed into them. Outcome? Distraction + Time = Ultimately, a happier, healthier future.
If it is neither of these options... sorry about that. Good luck, dear! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2013): Your question is a tad confusing but ill answer it the way I think you mean. Yes I've kept feelings from my bf and tell you what it doesn't do any good. We had to split up because eventually I felt like I couldn't tell him how I felt ever and he noticed. He didn't want to put up with it and I don't blame him. So I'm my opinion it's better to tell them how you feel!
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