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writes:Hi there! So here's the deal. I'm torn between these two guys. I've known the 1st one for 5 months now, and he's really sweet to me. He says so many nice things about me, he compliments me, sings to me, we can talk about anything and is incredibly smart.(He's a computer programmer) He makes me feel beautiful, but he's always busy with work and we haven't met in real yet. I always suggest for him to visit, we're only 3hrs apart, but he still hasn't done that ever since we've been together. He's a great guy trust me, but I just feel like I could need a little more attention. We met online, I know that it's risky to do that, but he isn't a bad guy. We comminicate through phone and sometimes even though he talks to me, sometimes I feel like he's so far away. He's a guy with work as priority and I respect that, but I just wish he would understand how I really feel sometimes.Now the 2nd guy I met a few days ago. He's like my best friend now. We have a lot in common, he draws, he writes poetry and is very compassionate. He's a sweet and gentle soul. I felt like I've known him for years and he confessed to me the other day. He so sweet and caring I can't hurt him. He gives me so much more attention than my bf does, and he said he wants to come over to visit me during Spring break. I've been trying to get the 1st guy to do that for the past 4 months. He so sweet, but he's very shy. He can communicate through typing and letters, but in real he talks very rarely. He's such a sweetheart and I'm torn between both of them. I don't know who to pick. I know this sounds really bad, but I'm just so confused right now. I need advise, please tell me what you think. Ask questions anything and I'll respond to them.
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reader, Jackalus  +, writes (17 February 2011):
Hi I have got the exact same problem except I'm a guy and am torn between 2 girls I would suggest guy number 2. If u could read my questions I would be grateful and a reply with some advice would be greatly appreciated
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (15 February 2011):
 So the first one is your boyfriend even though you've never met him? How old is this guy by the way? Computer programmers are always into their work. They don't really need to be working around the clock but they love tinkering with the electronics so they do anyway. In other words, he could spare the time to come see you on your Spring Break but he doesn't want to. There's also the fact that he could very well be not who he says he is. Or he may be married man who gets his rocks from talking to a 16-17 year old girl. I wouldn't pick Guy 1. He doesn't give you the attention, or the type of relationship you want at your age.
Guy 2, is this another guy you have met online? Or do you actually met him in person? I would give the shy guy a chance. He gives you the attention you need, and wants to come visit you. Take this guy out of the friend zone and give him a shot at a relationship with you.
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