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writes:Iv got a 2nd date with this girl but she's in control of it. What i mean is that she works full-time and does some evenings and weekends. her job is obviously verry important to her. she is very busy and so has little time. she said we can go out in a couple of weeks ir so. Thats fine. she's a lovely girl so im prepeared to wait. But everyone always says that the guy shoudl be in control and say when to meet. but if i dont agree to meet her when sh'es free i might not get another chance for ages. but i dnt want to seem like im not in control cos thats what keeps or makes girls keen right?how should i play this one? Reply to this Question
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reader, AbigailBradbury  +, writes (3 February 2012):
 this does not mean she's in control at all that's bull. don't listen to everyone else because it wont get you anywhere hun.
Like you said, she works and has to work a date round when she has the time. That's not "in control" or playing mind games, that's literally that she is busy.
Don't play games, it's not cool.
as long as you get to go on a date and you both enjoy yourselves, the rest is irrelevant. if you listen to everyone else you'll end up never having a chance with anyone.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (3 February 2012):
 Honestly forget all these games and so called 'rules'. If she has said she wants to go on a date with you then brilliant, dont worry about who organises what - she is interested because she agreed to go on a date with you.
You will only look daft if all of a sudden you start trying to organise the date, because she wont be free and she will just keep turning you down. So just forget what everyone else says and wait for her to tell you when she is free.
Perhaps you can be the one to organise the activity for the date, and she just has to tell you when she is free?
Either way it doesnt really matter, forget what other people tell you and play it cool, wait for her to tell you when she is free and take it from there.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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