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writes:I don’t have kids (and I’m unlikely to) but my sister is pregnant and my parents have bought the baby an expensive pram and plan to give the baby a sum of money as a gift to put into a savings account for when it’s 18. I’m curious whether others think that this is fair? I’m not saying that grandparents shouldn’t buy their grandkids a birthday present or the occasional gift etc but should they start paying large ticket items or giving sums of money to one of their children (that has kids), but not the other (who doesn’t))?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2021): If your parents have the financial means to set-up the new addition as you've described; it is likely you'll inherit something when the time comes.
I don't see why this is any of your concern; either by choice or fate, you don't have any kids. You can't say what they'd do if you did happen to become pregnant at some point in your life. You've predicted that's unlikely; but you shouldn't concern yourself about what your parents choose to give their grandchild, or anyone else. Unless you suspect they're being shammed.
This is how people create estrangement and discord in the family. Jealousy or envy are high on the list of reasons families come-apart. Your parents spent lots on you as you were growing-up; and you're not even required to pay any of it back. If you suddenly become incapacitated, or fall into hardship; I would assume they'd be the first to come to your rescue.
Please don't envy your sister; or accuse your parents of favoritism. That's pretty much where this is leading. You are building a case for yourself to resent your parents and your sister, and even your expected niece or nephew.
Time will tell, but you're inline for whatever they'll leave as your inheritance; and you'll stay in their good graces by being grateful and gracious for all they've done for you throughout your life. It's their money, and they can do with it whatever they please. The same goes for you!
When's the last-time you splurged on your mum and dad, and bought them something ridiculously expensive? Don't they deserve it?
Once you're an adult, you don't have a right to expect anything from your parents, but their love and emotional support. The rest is out of the kindness of their heart and purely out of their generosity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2021): Hi
You have 18 years to catch up and earn some cash, who knows what surprise is in store for you from your parents one day.
Sorry but It's their money, to do what they want with.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (7 June 2021):
 Yes, it's fair.
You know what? IT IS THEIR MONEY! they can do whatever they want with that money.
If that means spoiling or helping the grandkids, that is their choice and I bet you it will be appreciated.
Are you strapped for cash? Or do you just feel entitled to your parent's money that THEY worked for?
If you are doing poorly financially it would surely be nice for them to help, but you are a whole grown man who should be able to care for himself without mommy and daddy taking care of you. Though everyone can fall on hard times, consider WHY you feel it's "wrong". I'd love to hear the answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2021): I personally don't think it's any of your business what they do with their money. My parents I know buy more extravagant gifts for my brother and his wife and I couldn't care any less because it's up to them. If they want to fuss over their grandchild that's their choice...
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