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writes:My girlfriend says I seduce every damn girl out there in shopping malls , market places and on streets using my dirty eye contacts and movements. Last night,while crying, she warned me if I couldn't get this stopped , she would dump. I talked to her in details to make her understand but she said she would keep check on me. My head is spinning in the air to find out when did I do that and how come she got to know ? Please people help me on that to make her understand as I love her like a crazy. Reply to this Question
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (25 July 2011):
 Your GF is very insecure. Look at the menu. Just dont order, which youre not. Just reassure her your sexually attracted to her and this will all go away quicker than a detroit lions win streak.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2011): Do you think you eye women up continually?
Maybe you're utterly innocent here, and this accusation has hit you completely out of the blue. In that case, I agree with other posters that your girlfriend sounds insecure, and in need of some urgent reassurance. Maybe sit her down and tell her how much you care, and see if you can get to the bottom of these feelings of insecurity. Sometimes people who have experienced infidelity, either in partners or parents, can have grave anxieties about it.
On the other hand, maybe you are the kind of guy who is constantly staring at women. God knows, there are plenty of them around. Eyeing other girls up is not cheating. But personally, as someone who is regularly stared at in this way, I find it very uncomfortable. There's a presumption about it that makes me feel like someone's demanding my attention and acknowledgement in a way that is demeaning because, far from being appreciative of me as a person, it's entirely based on their sense of how I look - a bit like being wolf whistled is not sexy but humiliating. If my partner walked around doing it to other girls, I wouldn't have any respect for him - I'd think 'at some level, he thinks of women as pieces of meat, not as people'. And that would really put me off. If you are one of the guys who does this, then the best way to show your girlfriend you love her, and your female friends that you respect them, is to stop doing it! End of story.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2011): Shes obviously very insecure. You need to talk to her, and maybe when you talk give her direct eye contact or something?
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (25 July 2011):
 Your girlfriend has a lot of insecurity. She can't expect for you to not look at other girls. They're everywhere. Does she expect you to put your head down every time you two go out? She can't and she shouldn't. Tell your girlfriend that looking is not flirting and if she can't get rid of her insecurities, you might want to consider finding someone else.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (25 July 2011):
 wow, what does she want? For you to rip your eyes out, would that make her happy or would she then complain you were seducing people with your voice?
This girl sounds so paranoid, and insecure, did this happen out of the blue or did something else lead into it?
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