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writes:My girl has been dating a her current boyfriend for 4+ years. She cheated on him with me 5 months ago and we both have deep feeling for each other. We've repeatedly told each other that we love each other.She's still in her current relationship and her boyfriend has no idea what is going on the side. We've hooked up numerous times and I feel the only reason she's still with her boyfriend is that she doesn't want to hurt him by dumping him.In the meantime, it kills me to know that she may be hanging out with him while I'm stuck at home sometimes doing nothing. She seems to keep up this charade with him but why?I don't know if she still wants things to work out with him even though she's said she could never love him like she used to. I have a feeling she loves me more but she's 'confused'.what should I do?!... I don't want to end things with her by no means, because I love her... yet, I can't stand the thought that we have to sneak around all the time and that she still hangs out with him.What do i do?! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2011): I would say that the relationship is questionable. A if she is willing to cheat with you on her current boyfriend an important question is would she do this again on you, is it a pattern. Another question is how did you two meet? Was she out searching for an interest or was it by some coincidence. It maybe a good idea to tell her and have you be honest as well that her current 4 year boyfriend should know what is happening. No man should be left in the dark. If you all three can approach it with honesty then the best can come out of the situation.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (23 January 2011):
 I would say that she is having her cake and eat it. If you want to test her you could do two things, 1. Leave her and let her know where you are when she is single again. 2. Tell her if she doesnt tell her bf that you exist then you will. But i'll bet she dumps you if you threaten that because if she wanted to break away from him, she would have done it by now. At least you will know how the land lies and won't feel used anymore.
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