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writes: Been dating same girl for 4.5 years now. We dont live together and dont have children. Over last 2 years we have grown apart.Today we had a long talk and we both agreed we need time apart from each other. We decided a month of no contact would be enough to see if we missed each other, then we could take it from there.Although she agreed we needed the time apart, she wont do it because she says; she is worried that she might like being apart and not want to come back me!I thought that was the point of it.I honestly do not know anymore if I will miss her or even want to get back together, and I think she feels the same. But we wont know until we do it. A few years ago, I missed her after less than an hout going by, but now I can leave her or take her without fretting.I need some ideas on what to do next.Thanks
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 October 2011):
 You both had the right idea. You just need to take the lead now and tell her that the one month rule is going ahead. You need to take charge. Tell her it is what is needed to see if you both should be together or not, if she feels like that after the month well then it is obvious you both shouldn't be together, therefore tell her that is why you are both doing it and set some ground rules for the month so you both no where you stand. But yes no contact is the best and you will both know after that month if the relationship is worth saving. Good luck.
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