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writes:Ok so..i am a 16 years old athletic guy..actually i breakdance so i am in a real good body shape and no health problems etc..but the problem ismy first time was with an experienced woman i guessand it was horrible..i got everything wrongi mean she was like 25-26 and when i was inside her i barely could feel anythin..i kept asking her if it was in for sex sake..i got the whole sex idea wrong..after i was inside her..i kept asking my self ..is this what sex is?when will this end?after like 10 minutes i started loosing my hardness(before i was really hard and had confidence) but it was cold (winter outside on the beach..u know lol)after loosing my hardness i couldnt get hard againafter the embarassing thingi kept feeling like i will never be as hard as i used to..and i still feel like thisi am too worried about this thing as my lil buddy wont get as hard as he used toi kno everything is in my headbut i am too worried..my confidence about that thing is below zero and i have doubts..how can i come over this..please HELP!from a frustrated guy with a hurt ego.
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reader, Ms. Tearious  +, writes (23 April 2009):
Don't worry about her, it doesn't sound like she treated you very well, especially if it was your first time. Like some readers said before, stick to the girls your own age, and don't worry about us freaking out, we're just as nervous as you are, seriously.
You'll be able to get up again just fine and it's great that you already know the only real problem you would have would be getting your head on straight so you could think clearly.
If you stick with ladies your age and of your experience level, you'll be just fine and you both will be able to learn together. Hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2009): I enjoy watching people break dance. My joints are not what they used to be. Even my throwing arm aches when I try to throw a long one.
I once watched a break dancer do her thing and she went really well until around 2 minutes in. She fell and bent her hand the wrong way. It looked painful, but she seemed focussed more on her falling and 'screwing up' than the pain in her hand.
Her friends helped her, but it was apparent that she was not pleased with the results. She even tried practicing a bit more, with that injury of hers. I heard her friends urge her to take a rest, but she persisted.
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Ego, without being philosophical, is a good focal point to re-challenge yourself, but know when to rest and refocus your mind and know when to proceed forward.
Like break dancing, it takes practice to be good at what you want to achieve. If you ask me to break dance, I can almost guarantee you that I will embarrass myself if that part of my ego can be bruised that easily. If I really want to do 'better', I'll keep practicing. Maybe I'll practice with those that are on a similar level as I am or would I rather have a mentor to guide me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2009): it happens to the best of men, i'd recommend staying with girls you're own age…less pressure…she was probably just a slut and had a big floppy nasty vagina anyways! plus i mean c'mon, if it was winter outside on the beach? cold and probably slightly worried about getting caught the whole time…plus if you weren't in love…
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