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*issEmilina
writes:Dear Cupid,i had a fwb relationship with a guy in my group of friends. It was a horrible experience where i got very hurt and emotionally abused.I still have to see him every now and again because he is still friends with one person from the group, my ex having been excluded a few months ago.But my problem is that one of my best friends, even though she doesn't like him, still talks to him whenever we see him. She is very friendly and jokes with him and was even going to join his band. I don't understand why she does this, considering she knows with pain he put me through, she knows better than anyone. Its very confusing because my ex is a terrible person, he uses people and slags his supposed 'friends', said horrible things about me and has even slagged her.He wanted to get wit her the entire time he was with my but she hated him so that never happened. A similar expwerience happened to her a few months ago where she was used for sex and if i was in her position i wouldnt be nice to the guy who did that to herI don't know what to do now, is she really my friend if she acting this way?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2009): Yes she is still your friend but she just doesn't know how to pick them. There is no real way to stop her socializing with the guy because if you tell her that he's bad news she'll probably interpret it as jealousy. I think you should just try and be there for her and try and make sure she doesn't get used again (and yes I know this is unfair for you because really she shouldn't even be hanging around with the guy, but thats what friends do). You could confront her directly nd tell to stay away from the guy but that would most probably drive her to him more and hurt you friendship. Good Luck.
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