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*oodiegirl65
writes:Guys AND girls I need both of your opinions. I'm 16 and this I've known this guy for years who is 17 and amazing. We're like brother and sister. He helps me a lot and now he needs it. He is a gentlemen. He isn't perverted, respects girls, kind-hearted, has mannners, is loyal, faithful, and hard working. I think he is fairly good-looking . He isn't a "go with the crowd" type but has strong opinions on society (fight club esque), doesn't conform, is smart,athletic, lean, muscular, defends everyone who needs it. He thinks the girls that he knows are prettier than celebrities. He knows how to make a girl feel special. He gives people advice. He is the guy you want to bring home to mom and dad. He has lots of fun and also can protect whoever is with him vibe also.He got rejected by the first girl he likes. He feels like a loser. I found a piece of paper with his thoughts on it (with his deep thoughts he tells no one) and he feels "inadequate". He was beating himeself up with writing He feels he isn't good-looking or desired by any. He's down about his looks, smarts, manners, and sexual ability. He has great stamina in sports and I've actually seen his "man" before ( changing, walked in by accident) and it's a good size. He wants to stop being who he is ( a great guy) and become a "jerk, a**hole, womanizer" because they are more " wanted by girls". He isn't wallowing in self-pity, but he is very negative about everything now and wants to "get revenge on everyone". I think he is starting to change into one of "them". He is pessimistic and seems to think the world hates him and that he should hate the world. How do I instill his confidence back and help him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010): If you don't think of him romantically then what kind of guys do you feel that way about? Are they a little more naughty than him? If you giva an honest answer I'll bet they are.
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reader, goodiegirl65 +, writes (11 September 2010):
goodiegirl65 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe're like brother and sister. I'm not allowed to date like he is. I want him to have his confidence back because He is the closest person to me ever.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (11 September 2010):
 send him a link to your post?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010):
Why aren't you romantically involved with him?
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