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writes:[Moderator note: explicit language deleted and paragraphs added for easier reading]I am a female (35 years of age)... and I have been in a relationship with a wonderful man (48 years of age) for 10 months now. Sex was GREAT in the beginning and now it's been four plus months and nothing. We have spoken about the situation three times and still no sex. I am going crazy!!! I feel unattractive, ugly and useless. I am so unhappy with the situation. Unfortunately, I am at a cross roads. He tells me it's him and not me. He states there is no one else and that he wishes he could use that as an excuse because we would at least know what the problem is. He tells me he does love me and when it comes to matter of the heart it takes time. Well, I believe him to a point; however, wouldn't you want to try and fix it sooner than later? I think about this every day it is tearing me apart! I can't stop thinking of why he don't want to [have sex with] me. Is he not into me anymore? Is there someone else he is [having sex with] or just talking to? Something happened between the two of us but what? The 'I can't pin point it' BS doesn't fly! Please Help suggestions... Reply to this Question |
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (4 November 2009):
 I still don't think he is being completely honest, you need to turn to him for the answers your looking for because he knows them!Gina
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAll...
Thank you for your responces. Actually, I am the one who talks in bed and gets into it. Several days later he will say hey you said this and you said that. He thinks it is funny and I am like ok! Maybe I should not talk and lay missionary. What baffles me is years ago he worked as a bouncer in a stripe club. So how can this seem funny to him? Its not like he doesn’t have experience in adult relations (just from being in the environment). Confused!!! Very confused I feel as if he doesn't like what I say or do. I even asked what he likes and he stated you do it all good. Please help...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): He is very bored with you sexually period. This happens with men all the time. We strive to woo you, get you, fall in love or like you...then get bored with the whole experience. Women on the other hand, once they give in...want sex more often than men.
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (4 November 2009):
I don't think he is being completely honest with you here, because usually when the sex dries up there is a reason.
If for any reason he is having problems maintaining an erection then he can get help for this, but he has to tell you that first, burying his head in the sand like he is will get you nowhere.
Try and get him to open up more because deep down he knows what is wrong, he just cant muster the courage i feel to tell you!
Gina
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