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writes:My boyfriend travels abroad on business a lot and recently when looking for his washing I found a bundle of condoms in his case. He assures me these were for when we started going out together (two years ago) but I am not sure that I can trust him now. His is 40 and I am 55!! What should I do now.
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reader, Jencat +, writes (12 June 2007):
Jencat is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the answers to my dilema and I think I will give him the benefit of the doubt this time as on checking some condoms I bought the same time I started seeing him (2005) (which are in a drawer) they had a sell by date of 2008 which is the same sell by date as on his so I need to take his word that they are from the past, but I will certainly be doing a bit of checking from now on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2007): They have a use-by date - have a look and see if the remaining time is reasonable. They should probably be near or past their sell-by date, but you can look at some packs in the chemist and see how long they usually allow from the purchase date. If they are OK until 2009 for example he is lying.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007): This is going to sound sneaky and not the normal 'sensible' response but I think you need to keep a close eye on this guy. I was in a similar situation once - I was in the bathroom but could see my husband packing his bag (he was going away on business) and I actually saw him (in the reflection in the mirror) putting condoms in his soap bag. This is clearly different to your situation but he said he wasn't seeing what he was doing and was in a hurry. Rather than over react play the long game and see what he does in future and if necessary double check behind his back - it sounds awful but you need more evidence. If what he says is genuine you will not find any more 'clues'. In any case you should not live in this fear or doubt for too long as it eats away at your self esteem and a lack of trust in a relationship is very damaging. Good luck and use your intuition.
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reader, love-him +, writes (7 June 2007):
 Hia chick the only thing you can realy do is take his word for it, because that is the only proof and what he says does sound like a valid reason. but if you have any more doubts then you should sit down with him and explain you want you both to be happy and if he wants someone else, not to hurt you.. hope i helped, mail me if u wana talk x x x
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