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writes:I need some advice about something I found the other day in my boyfriends room.I was looking for something I'd lost and found a part of a condom wrapper, a type we've never used before. We've been together almost a year. He is untidy but surely this can't have been there all that time since before we got together? I mean, we've had a new bed recently and cleaned the whole room out!!!This is driving me mad, I don't know what to do. I trust him and don't think he would ever cheat on me but this has definitely made me doubt him. What's going on and how should I go about the matter? PS: I am a bit crazy and have already been on the condom companies website. It says they are a new company, but it doesn't say how new. If I could prove they've only come out since we've been together I could prove it.
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reader, tux  +, writes (7 June 2006):
 I agree with the first "female reader, anonymous". Though, I wouldn't put too much weight on the "takes awhile for a reason" part though. I can take a few moments before I answer my girlfriend sometimes even though what I do say is what happened.. but other than that watch his reaction..
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (7 June 2006):
 It does seem a bit odd but how well do you keep track of condoms?
I mean, often they go on in the dark and perhaps it was one that he ended up with that he wouldn't usually buy that you two did use?
Or you said it was part of one, perhaps it was one from more than a year ago that was in an old overnight bag or old jacket that he cleaned out and it fell out?
Basically what I am saying is yes, it does sound odd and definitely confront him but keep in mind there could be an innocent explanation.
I would have a chat to him - first of all, perhaps have a chat about the relationship and then mention it. You will be able to tell if he's lying straight away.
So confront it but keep your mind open that there may be an innocent explanation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2006): Once, I found a girl's watch in my boyfriend's bed. On closer inspection I recognised it to be a watch belonging to one of my close friends. I did an utter bit flip and ended up flying into such a rage that the neighbours avoided me for months afterward. When I finally calmed down enough to listen, it turned out that my close friend and my boyfriend's best mate had been secretly getting it on and using my boyfriend's bed.
Moral of the story, don't be hasty, but certainly DO confront him. I will be keeping my fingers crossed for you that your situation turns out the same as mine. If not, then kick him to the kerb with your pointiest stilletos! Good Luck Honey xx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (6 June 2006):
 Yep I think the surprise attack is probably going to get you the best results. Come straight out with the "Are you cheating on me" and then bring out the wrapper if he denies he is. Remember one thing however, you may not like the answer to the question so think long and hard before you ask. Trust is a very necessary part of a good relationship so I guess you really need to know the answer to this one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2006): im sorry to be blunt but it seem pretty obvious he has been up to something, if i were you i would ask him if he has cheated, look at his reaction and if he denies it get out the wrapper and tell him you want the truth! if he starts accusing you of snooping or takes a while to give a reason or gives you the lamest reason in the world then that just proves he has been unfaithful
hope everything goes ok and let us know how you get on
xXx
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