A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey! Just after a second opinion please following this...http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-she-didnt-say-im-meeting-my-boyfriend.htmlhttp://www.dearcupid.org/question/we-met-last-week-and-now-suddenly-shes.htmlBasically following this she has remained single, and we've been getting on really well. But I can't tell if we're just friends? I wouldn't mind being more than, I'd like to, but I don't get her 'signals'?The other day we were talking and she said about how she felt uncomfortable with another male friend who wanted to be more then friends. Why would she tell me this, as a message/on purpose as a hint to me that she's not interested with me either? Or to say that she's not interested in 'Friend X' but interested in me?We talked about meeting up the other day with her friends, but I didn't go cause I was so paranoid about messing up our great friendship, as following her comment before I didn't want to push it. But surprisingly she messaged me asking why I didn't go, so she obviously was thinking about me/wanted to see me?Also do girls often call male friends 'babe' and 'love'?I don't think it's just me that see's the 'potential' there, a female friend of her's told me that she felt we'd be a gd match, and the other day everyone was looking at us as if we were together if you get me.Lastly, she's invited me to her house on Monday to fix something for her/meet her parents.I think she's AMAZING and I really fancy/adore her, but at the moment I keep it 'friendly', but my question is do you think she's into me? The whole 'male friend going too far' comment has really frown me.Thanks for any feedback you can offer! Reply to this Question
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female
reader, Lola1  +, writes (18 September 2009):
 Actually, her behaviour is common for a teenage girl. Her relationship with her ex was probably at an end and maybe meeting you, a guy she had so much in common with and her age, etc., gave her the push she needed.
Think of it as a light bulb going off in her head. She thinks, "Oh wait! This is what things COULD be like." She didn't want to lie and say she was single, but didn't want you to know she had a boyfriend. She didn't want you to think she was unavailable, knowing that she didn't want to be with him anymore.
She told you about male friend "X" because you haven't made a move yet. She wanted you to see that others find her desirable and see what kind of reaction you'd give. Would you ask her out? Would you say that you can understand why he'd like her, because she's beautiful?
In short, she likes you. She's hoping you like her, too.
I want to add here that I suspect your instincts have been telling you the same thing. That is why, despite twice before getting advice from someone who told you to run, you did not run but keep coming back for more advice.
Go with your gut. I think you’re right.
Enjoy!
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