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writes:Me and my fiencee have been together for 15 months. I call him he never answer phone most of the time. We use to spend alot of time together. I havnt seen him for 3 weeks i miss him and love him so much. It seems all he wants is sex. I no thats not all he want considering he lost his verginity to me. We see each other once a week and talk on the phone. He says he loves me and wants to be with me. I dont know why hes doing this. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2008): MikesGirl,
I have no idea why you posted this again. You will get more answers you just have to be a little patient.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/fiancee-trouble.html
Still not enough information to go on in this latest post. Anyway the answer is a bit more helpful. We have no idea why he stays away from you, you need to ask him why you haven't been seeing him, maybe he's busy, maybe he's sick. Why can't you go and see him instead. Phone him and ask him what's going on. You've been together for over a year, your going to get married, why can't you talk to him, what holds you back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): He's not acting as though he loves you and wants to be with you. Why don't you try asking him these questions! Start your adulthood right. Learn to communicate. I always say communication is the foundation of any good relationship. If you don't talk about issues it's impossible to gain trust, and without trust, What do you have???? Talk to your guy!
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reader, littlemissalf123 +, writes (9 December 2008):
 A man who plans to ACTUALLY MARRY YOU doesn't mind waiting to have sex because he knows that there will be plenty of time for that once the two of you ACTUALLY GET MARRIED. Seems like lover boy is a little TOO ANXIOUS to get in those pants. You might what to check into his intentions.
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reader, Jon1230  +, writes (9 December 2008):
 It does seem a little strange,Although i believe we all need our own space even though you dont see each other much it maybe that he just needs time for himself etc.
The only way to tell would be to sit and talk to him face to face or try and distance yourself and see if he picks up on the fact that you are becoming more distant with him
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008):
If there is no reason why he shouldnt be awnsering the phone to you, (he is busy/working) then you need to meet up with him and be honest about the way you feel. I take it you are engaged, and when you are engaged or in any serious relationship, you have to be honest when you feel upset about something to do with the relationship. You both need to work it out together.
You have to be honest about how you feel and talk to him.
Tell him that you miss him, and dont feel that you have been seeing him enough or in contact with him enough. Tell him that you want to spend some quality time together, go out for the day, have fun together (this is so you dont just meet up and have sex) - spend some quality time together. If you think your relationship is based on just sex, then you need to work through it and go out places together. Even if you go to the park, go to the mall,beach whatever you can do, go out and make a whole day of it. You should be enjoying your love and lives together and having fun, not worrying about things like this.
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