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writes:My ex cheated on me 4 times I forgave her three times then I broke up with her the fourth. Then a week after I broke up with her She fucked my best friend. And im really not coping at all, what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2010): Cut off from your ex completely. Remove all reminders of her from your home and life. Delete her number from your phone. Don't have any contact. All she has done was hurt you.
Look at the rest of your life and start to build something new. Go out with your friends. Try not to think or talk about her because that will make it worse. I know it is hard, but this is what you have to do. Think what you want from your life, and occupy yourself in finding that.
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reader, kerbear75  +, writes (6 October 2010):
I am sorry. I know that it will be hard to cope with, but all in all you have to remember that you didn't do anything wrong. The lose of a girlfriend is always hard, and after the affairs and forgiveness I am sure you feel angry.
I would suggest that every day you wake up and during the day you stop and remind yourself THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH ME. She is the one with issues, she is the one who lost out, and most of all she is the one who will suffer in the end.
Getting over her will just take time. As for the bestfriend. I personally would be more upset with him. He betrayed you on a few levels. Comes back to that old saying if you cant trust your friends who can you trust.
I dont see how this "friend" could ever prove he is a good friend again, and therefor having to find a new bestfriend to confide in at this time might be a good idea.
There are friends, and lovers out there that will respect you. Be proud of your strenght, and be sure to always think of yourself first. If you are not mentally healthy you cant make someone else happy.
Best of luck
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