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writes:Why would an ex-bf buy you drinks all night then make out with some girl at the bar almost in front of you?My ex, who broke up with me 8 months ago recently asked me to go out for a drink with him to "catch up". I said "sure" but next week sometimes. Then accidentally, last night I ran into a student party at a club. As soon as I walked him, he came to greet me. Later when I went to the bar to get a drink for me and my female friend and I pulled out my wallet to pay, the bartender said that the gentleman over there (my ex) has those drinks covered for you. Later during the night I ran into him again and again he offered me a drink. I accepted, but always kept conversations with him close and even avoided him by switching locations at the club. Towards the end we found each other were close by again and he started making out with some girl. He looked towards me to see if I was looking at him. Obviously I saw him and was not impressed at all. I told my girlfriend that it was time to leave and left.I don't know what to make out of this situation. Why would he buy me drinks, then make out with some girl right in front of me? (She was not his gf, just some random girl he picked up).
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reader, MsVick  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 He is an ass and was trying to make you jealous and to show you how easily you could be replaced. Do you really want someone like this in your life? I doubt it, move on and forget the jerk.
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reader, ScottsCove +, writes (8 October 2010):
 Hmmmm boy, whooo eee this a hard one.
Hmmmmm .....
He's using you for his own ego trip ?
Uh nope can't be that.
He's an utter slimester, douche bag ?
No can't be that; he was once your boyfriend, must be a prince then.
Ummmm... Hmmmmm... Er ......
Got me.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (8 October 2010):
 I think he was trying to show you that he doesn't need you.
And.. that he is somewhat of a douche bag.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (8 October 2010):
 To show you that you don't mean anything to him.
To make you jealous.
Because he's a dick.
There are quite a few reasons why he may do this. I buy girls drinks all the time, but it doesn't mean I want to get with them. Don't read too much into it. It's kind of the guy thing to do at the bar. Be generous. It's a way to show off and be "a good guy."
I wouldn't sweat this, just be glad you didn't have to pay for overpriced drinks. After all, he wasted his money so what's your loss here? Just be glad you aren't still with him if that's how he acts at the club.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (8 October 2010):
 Because he wants to have control over your feelings. It sounded like he wanted to hurt you by getting your "hopes" up and then destroying them.
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reader, Lanayi  +, writes (8 October 2010):
I know it's hard to believe. But even a person who dumped you can't cope with the break up. Men between 20-30 don't have nurturing relationships to their family or friends like girls do.This guy broke up with you, wanted to see you again and you did not "jump" for his invitation to go out and "catch up"...that probably made him curious.It sounds like if he simply wanted to see your reaction and if youre still "into him" or if youre "over it" already. I know its very confusing, but people act dumb if they are insecure. My cousin was just invited to her exes birthday and at the party he made out with his new girl (she didnt know of) in front of her. - Its insecurity and desperately seeking for a reaction. Otherwise he wouldn't have looked towards you. He noticed that you kept avoiding him and maybe cant take it that you turned the tables!dont overanalyze the situation though... it takes too much energy from you!
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