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writes:ok i need help!im in yr 12 and doing my last 10 weeks of schooling before my final exams. i am completely stressed out already because in this final year everything happens!!..the ball, u go out more and experience more, u get ur licence, u get a good job, responsibility with school becomes a high need especially when u are a captain and have duties as well as juggling school work...but also u might meet a guy! (the dilemma.)Everything for me is happening all at once and i feel stressed. I just found out that my friends bf's mum has leukemia, and my baby cousin is in and out of hospital due to serious illness...leaving my aunty in postnatal depression. Everything is just building up and i feel that one way i can ease it off is by dealing with the issue of this guy i am seeing. Its nearly been 5 months and hes still afraid of commitment because hes been screwed over soo many times by his family and his gf whom he loved very much. (hes 20 by the way.)I said id wait n i was going good but now i dunno if i can because everything is piling up. I really really really do like him (and yes we've slept together), and he knows im stressed out n always asks if i wanna chat about whats going on and how i feel, but i feel that he doesnt care if he sees me cause hes always working! i havent seen him for like a week and itl probably be nearly 2...and he just goes on about how he does want to see me but hes got other priorities. That just hurts me so much and shuts me down as im willing to give him me...thinking he can do the same and il have strong support, but its not happening.How do i prioritise?...i dont wanna loose him cause he is coming round with the relationship situation n he said itl happen just not yet. But how do i just forget about that at the moment and continue focusing on the real issues in my life? im stressed and fragile and very confused...thanky you all so much for your help :)
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reader, fortoner  +, writes (30 July 2008):
You are young and you still have the whole world ahead of you... Generally when things get to chaotic for me I make a list... start with everything that has to be done today, once that is checked off, go to tommorow... don't worry about getting everything done... take your time. As for the boy... you have only been going out for 5 months. I know you might think you are ready to commit to him, but if he is not ready then realisticly the relationship probably isn't going to work out anyway. I am currently having a similar problem. If you don't tell him what you want and need then you are never going to get it becuase, lets be serious, most guys just don't know...
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