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age
36-40,
*raintobrownbread
writes:I am having trouble maintaining an erection with my new girlfriend. I did not have this problem with my ex, however, I am much more attracted on every level to my new one. When it goes well in bed, more often then not, it is amazing, especially midnight wake up sex.About 5 or 6 years ago, my father came out as gay. At the age of 17, I became very confused about myself, despite never questioning my sexuality before. I'd kissed friends for a laugh in the past, and cringed in retreat, as did they :P I have tried gay porn, sometimes I can get into it, but more often not. I have no desire at all to chase up a real life experience, as it's really not for me.So, the reason I mention this is because it nags me when I do not "perform" well. I find myself testing myself to assure and reaffirm my sexuality and always land on a more physical and emotional bond with women, especially my new girlfriend.In all, has anyone had a similar past experience in the past? And is there any advice on removing that nag so that I can get back to the most intimate sex I have ever had?I'm 22, healthy and open minded to all suggestions.Thanks
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reader, Jodie_Babe +, writes (10 January 2010):
 If you ejaculate during the day - then it cuts your sex drive, because after you've ejaculated it makes it harder to re-gain an erection.
Because the more you don't masturbate the better you'll perform as you'll want her more when it comes to having sex with her.
That is the only advice I can give you - As I'm a women I don't really understand, but that happens to my boyfriend when he has already ejaculated.
I hope this helps.
Jodie.
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reader, Graintobrownbread +, writes (10 January 2010):
Graintobrownbread is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm already cutting down on the masturbation in general, and performance anxiety I can understand, the minute things start to flop, I feel like a massive dissapointment, and then trigger memories of confusion. Thanks for your input.
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reader, Jodie_Babe +, writes (10 January 2010):
Do you ejaculate in the day before having sex with her? x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2010): Hi as a woman i can only offer you on what i think it could be.It is posssible that because you like this girl so much you are having performance anxiety and the more you worry about it the more you are experiencing problems.Hope this helps.
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