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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been sleeping together for about 3 months now and recently we've been having some problems. We've always used condoms and he's never had any trouble getting an erection before. However, last time I stayed at his he lost it just before sex. It's easy enough for us both to get ready but recently it seems that the moment he reaches for a condom he loses it, which has never happened before. I thought the problem might be me not trying to stimulate him as much, so I've tried baths together, massages and everything I can think of but it still happens. I've asked him to go down to a clinic and see if anything might be wrong and get tested, because I will not have sex without using condoms until I know he is clean. but in the meantime I'm trying to work out what's changed. The things I came up with were:-My boyfriend is very unhappy at work at the moment and is in a catch 22 about looking for somewhere else because nowhere is hiring, and I've been having some difficulties with my uni course. So we're stressed and worried.-A few weeks ago I ran out of the usual condoms we use and the only other ones I had were a extrasafe brand which were really thick and made my boyfriend feel really dull down there. So maybe it's a bad experience he doesn't want to go through again?-General diet and stamina. Neither of us do much sport so that would explain something, though we've never had this problem before.If anyone has any suggestions what this might be, or if there is anything I could do to help me, please say. Thanks.
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reader, Brenna36  +, writes (29 April 2009):
 First NEVER have it unprotected unless u want babies.
second its probably just stress guys have that problem when there super stressed. Just wait awhile and see if things get better or if your really concerened see a dr.
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