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writes:Ive recenty came out of a 5 and a half year relationship which should have really ended 2 years aga. Ive returned to college as amature student and have moved away from my family and friends. Im feeling so down and i think im never going to meet a gecent nice guy. Ihave made new friends, but its just not the same as my old life. Help Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): You will find a decent guy and you will enjoy the new chapter in your life. Have you seen the secret... I highly recommend it. If you're focusing about how your not going to find anything enjoyable, then you won't. Focus on your new life... and the new you and things WILL work out for you :)
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reader, baby duck  + ♥, writes (3 October 2007):
 =( No, it's not the same as your old life and, I suspect, that's the root of your pain. It sounds like growing pains and, unfortunately, they're ongoing. You will meet a decent guy but you don't want it to happen right now because you are not ready and your relationship with him will not be what you want. Sit still. When we're talking/doing things with others, we're distracted from what is going on inside and that is fine, sometimes. No one said to become a hermit. But you need alone time (we all do,even those in rewarding relationships) to feel all the changes your going through. I find journaling very helpful. You have a lot of adjustments going on (end of a long relationship, returned to school, away from established relationships) and pleasurable or not, they are stressful. Make sure you your body gets the exercise/water/sleep that it needs, too, or you'll find the stress will attack your immune system. *inhale, exhale* You're going to be better than ever, once you get through this tough spot. *inhale, exhale* Best wishes!
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reader, rcn + ♥, writes (3 October 2007):
 Is it not the same, because you're missing the other friends. Why don't you feel you'll meet a nice guy. Of course with that attitude.
Transitions are hard. Moving away from people you know and love is hard too. Being in college will take some adjusting, and just as you're friends back home, I think you'll find your experience in school is going to be just as treasured as the experience you have with your friend back home.
Give it some time. It's hard at the beginning, because it's so new, but it will get easier.
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reader, On Cloud9  +, writes (3 October 2007):
 It is a new life so it will not be the same as your old one...but is that such a bad thing? Remember you must have disliked your old life or you wouldn't have needed the change.
It is not always easy to adjust to change and it sounds like you have made some big changes in your life recently. I sincerely don't mean to sound like i am trivialising your problem (because I am not) but try looking at the positive side - say to yourself 'what good problems I have', you are young, meeting new friends, socialising, given an opportunity to return to college and thus enhancing your potential to achieve your dream job.
You got out of a relationship 2 years too late, but its better late than never and it could have been 20 years. I think you sound like you have a great life in front of you but just need to take the time to adjust to your new lifestyle and concentrate on college and friends and you will meet someone when you least expect it. Remain positive x enjoy it!
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