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*heekym3
writes:Ok i'm only 17...still young and still have my whole life ahead of me...i know! ...but right now theres only one person i want to be sharing my life with. My ex. We went to primary school together and then re united when we were 15/16. we were together for just 3 months and because i was his first relationship...he was rather clingy "i can see myself spending the rest of my life with you" he said!...therefore i split up with him. we avoided eachother at college and never spoke to eachother...i broke his heart. Over a year later we have got talking again and i cant believe i was so naive and stupid! He is such a good bloke, sexy, caring and so much more! When we r alone (at my house or on the phone) we are all over eachother...but back in the 'real world' we are distant friends again! WHAT IS GOING ON? The moments between us are so passionate and exciting... i want him back! Now i feel like the clingy one and hes not interested!He can't decide what he wants and its doing my head in. He tells me he doesn't think he wants a relationship, but the moments we share together r so intimate! blokes...tell me whats goin on in his head! and gals....please tell me what to do! i wanna ring him text him see him every second of the day...im havin to sit on my fone so i cnt keep txtin him!HELP!
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (12 January 2008):
 Tell him you made a mistake and ask him back out.
It sounds to me like he's trying to play it safe, he's scared if he gets too attached to you he'll get clingy again, and you'll end up dumping him again. I bet that's it.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (12 January 2008):
 I am sorry to hear that things went awry and not the way you expected. He is just immature or perhaps jealous and lashed out at you . Let things things cool down for abit.
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reader, cheekym3 +, writes (11 January 2008):
cheekym3 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Tonight after finding sh*t out from his mate first, he text me telling me hed didnt have feelings for me. I dont know whats happend between now and wednesday but hes given me no answers and its takin him this long to finally give me a straight answer. Im devistated and hurt. Hes used me in a way that i never thought he would!
I guess deep down he never wanted me, he just wanted someone to want him!
So thank you to you all for your answers, i guess all i needed was to hear his answer! and now i have it, i wish i hadnt have asked!
Natalie xxx
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (11 January 2008):
You dumped him when he was all for you . He was just expressing his love for you but you took it to mean he was clingy.That is a man's love talk.
He could not understand why you acted that way and it hurt him.He is wary of committing any relationship with you as he is afraid you may go off again over some stupid expressions.
Give him more time and don't take those words forever. Those words are only for that moment. They can change anytime. Don't hold his words for life.!His actions speaks louder than his words. Read his actions and not his words.
For a man , what is said today is valid only for today and tomorrow , he may say a different thing . LOL! What he said is not a law written in stones. Sometimes , they give the wrong answers because most men don't think before they talk.
When he is all alone with you , he is his true self . Back in the real world , he does not want others to know yet that he is back with you. He could have said something to his friends and he cannot back down or eat humble pie.
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reader, cheekym3 +, writes (11 January 2008):
cheekym3 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks hun, its nice to have female advice! when he said he could see us together forever, i jus panicked and got scared! im no sayin we'll last forever, i just want a chnace to make it right and start again! but ur right, seeing him as a friend would make it far easier! Thanks agen! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): Sounds like me.
My ex dumped me for being "too clingy". It hurt a lot. During the last year he's asked me out again 3 times and each time I never know what I want until I think over it a lot!
Just take things slow for a while is all I've got to say, talk to him as if he's a friend not someone you love. That's how I took things with him.
Hope I help :D
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