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*ensativeguy010
writes:I met this girl who had just broken up with her bf a month prior from when we started talking. and weve hung out once and had a great time and we flirt and she calls me cute little nicknames like sugerplum, and cutie pie. but i know she hasnt gotten over her ex. But shes looking for a nice guy, and im pretty sure shes interested in me. But how do i keep her interested until she wants to date again? so like 2 or 3 months. cuz she will lose interest if we just txt all the time. Some days when we txt she will be really flirty and she will tell me like "txt me later :)" or if its the end of the night she will say "txt me tomorrow" or "ill txt you tomorrow", but some days shes not flirty at all and doesnt talk as much, and wont rly say that "txt me later" kind of stuff, and we wont rly talk till i txt her. and shes rly busy so we dont get to hang out that often.
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reader, SusieQ79  +, writes (14 February 2011):
When you're not ready to date again, the last thing you want is a man coming on strong. Odd's are if she is flirty its because she is trying to regain her self confidence that always dives at the end of a relationship.If you want to keep yourself as a viable prospect, don't crowd her. Also if you're texting everyday (which I do not recommend as a regular source of contact, so much can get misconstrued), its likely you are becoming her comfort blanket that she is used to being there.You don't have to spend lots of time together, but do spend quality time together. Take her out. Have fun, give her things to remember about how great you are. Let her miss you. If you're always in contact she won't get the chance. There's nothing like not being able to have what you want, to make you want it more.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (14 February 2011):
 I've tried that waiting for her to be ready crap, and you know where it kept me? Single. That's because some other guy would swoop right in and they'd hook up.
I suggest you ask her out. Just take things slowly, but then there's no doubt about your interest. You need to jump on this opportunity before someone else does.
If she says she's not ready, tell her you'd like her to consider going on a date with you when she is ready. Put it out there.
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (14 February 2011):
The easiest way is to get her into your circle of friends. Get your friends get to know her and try and get to know her friends. Maybe you can all go out sometime on a Friday night. Once she's not only friends with you, but the other people you hang out with, I can guarantee she'll be spending a lot more time around you.
Also, limit your texts per day to her. Don't ignore her of course, but put a count on the number of times you ask her about her day, etc. If she starts getting flirty, hell, get flirty back, but don't over do it. You want her memories of you to be in your personal interactions, not digital interactions. What is she going to remember more, that funny charming thing you said over a text message, or that funny charming thing you said when you were all hanging out? You bet its going to be the second one.
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