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writes:When I was in a relationship with my ex-girlfriend, I used to watch porn movies twice or thrice in a week..in fact i still watch it. Whenever she would ask me that do you watch porn movies? I would answer saying that last time I watched porn movie was 5 years back and so far I have watched only two porn movies. Please tell me that does watching porn movies while one is being in a relationship constitute a cheating? I had a sex with her but only on internet and phone ...never did it in real.
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reader, torngirl  +, writes (19 October 2009):
Some people view watching porn as cheating emotionally; getting yourself off to the sight/thought of others rather than your partner.Other people see it as purely imaginary and don't see it as hurtful.I guess what really matters is what you and she believe and whether that can work together.What I am sure about is - lying is never a good start. Whether she is particularly bothered about the porn or not, the lies she will. One day lies about porn, next day lies about an affair? All relationships need trust and with your lies you will erode that. You may have thought you were saving her feelings or something, but take that one step further and would you like about cheating? Everyone deserves to be with someone because they have chosen to be with them, not because they've been led to think their partner is someone they're not.'Fess up now before it's too late. Good luck.
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reader, Zahir_is_burning +, writes (16 October 2009):
Zahir_is_burning is verified as being by the original poster of the question I had never ever gotten closer to anyone while being in a relationship with her. but i did lie with her here and there like one night while having conversation with her i got so bored the i went sleeping for almost 20 minutes and she got me woke up by shouting , asking me why i was so quite ? i answered saying that I was so lost listening to your sweet talk which wasn't the case..lol. but if she comes back again in my life, I will be a changed person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): That really depends on your own interpretations of what constitutes cheating. Yes, some people consider wanking to porn as cheating since it involves having sex in your head with another person. It also is 'cheating' by taking sex outside of the relationship.
Many people don't consider this cheating and some people go so far as including other people in their relationship and do not consider this cheating as they are not breaking the relationship rules that they have agreed upon.
So, it all comes down to the agreements you have with your mate and wether or not your behavior is outside of the agreed upon terms or rules.
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reader, queenbee21  +, writes (15 October 2009):
 Maybe she was into porn herself and was waiting for you to bring it up. I have a female friend who openly admits to watching porn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): you have sex with your 'girlfriend' but only on the phone and internet.
you watch porn movies twice or thrice in a week but you have only watched two movies.
Your girlfriend, your movies and your sex seem to be all in your head.
When you are in a real relationship with a living person you will learn the value of honesty, or may be not. Till then, you will remain this avid poster of questions who talks about blackmail and whatnot on this site.
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (15 October 2009):
 Watching porn dont mean that you are cheating on that person, its not like you are wit that person you are watching, cheating would be if you was wit someone else, so no you are not cheating, but you are being dishonest with her.
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