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writes:is it bad when you were hanging out with someone for about a month or more, and you hung out at least once or twice a week...sometimes more and then you hang out once one week( being last week, monday-tuesday morning) and dont talk until today, which is like 6/7 days when normally you'd only go like 2 days without talking? should i call him? because he always was the one to call me so i didn't feel the need but my guy friends are saying it sounds like hes not calling because i'm not...? and my friend said that would make him feel like hes the one doing all the work and it becomes a one sided relationship...should i call him? i called him once on saturday to see if he wanted to do something sunday but he didn't answer his phone and he still hasn't called me back...it's monday but i didn't leave a message. he knows my home number though because i am currently without a cell phone...
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (23 December 2008):
 It doesn't exactally sound like a REAL RELATIONSHIP. It sounds more like a friendship of sorts. He is now either backing off, too busy or interested in something or somwone else!
Get busy and put him aside for the time being. When he notices that you have stopped calling and such if he likes you he is bound to try and figure out why.
Men in general can sometimes be hard to figure out...Yes guys I know sometimes we women are too! *LOL* You have to learn to ROLL WITH THE PUNCHES! Don't worry too much about what's going on with him. It really could be anything!
Remember the NO CONTACT RULE........let him do without your and your attention for awhile. He's gonna be wondering what eva happened to ya!
Merry Christmas and enjoy your day without him if you have to. Show him you are GOOD even when HE's GONE! *-)
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): Are you guys dating because 'hanging out' doesn't really sound like dating in my books. Is this a case where you want to date him but he's not responding to that. If so, then you two are just friends,a nd he's not obliged to call you and you shouldn't be worrying about this. However, if you two are dating, or it's heading in that direction and this guy was really into you, I would think he'd be calling you at least once a day. He'd want to hear the sound of your voice, he'd be seriously be taking an interest in you and your life. And let's not forget-- men love the art of pursuing. It's a pretty instinctive thing to them. It sounds like he wants to be a friend with no strings attached more than anything else, at this point.
So if you called on Saturday and he hasn't called back yet, 2 days later, I'd get on with life and and calling other social contacts. He could be just uneasy about this whole relationship thing or he's otherwise distracted by other interests. There's a good chance he has seen you have called, as most phones have 'call and number displays' now in Canada. I'd leave it..make him work for you, girl. And if he isn't forthcoming, then move on and find someone else who isn't fearful of going the whole distance with you. good luck.
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