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writes:hey peopleok im just a little confused. my girlfriend and i have been friends on and off for about 7 years. this last time we became friends it became more an weve been together for 7 months now. the thing im confused about is recently she told me she only started talking to me again cause she remembered having feelings for me in the past. When we first became friends again thats all i wanted an thought thats what she wanted to. she was in a bad relationship at the time. does this mean that im kinda like a rebound guy? this really worries me because ive given her my all. Reply to this Question
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reader, Twilight#1 +, writes (16 December 2008):
 It is difficult to distinguish between the two. Whether or not your relationship is a "rebound". To me it sounds like she wants to like you, but you have to be really careful she sounds confused. Being a rebound is no fun... so I would clarify it with her... thats the best suggestion I can give. I hope you find answers and happiness.
Hope I helped
Christine ^.^
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reader, pinksky32002 +, writes (16 December 2008):
Okay, no, I don't think you are a rebound. She told you she had feelings for you and that's the reason she started talking to you again. Okay, maybe she was in a bad relationship. That still does not mean you are the rebound. I think she's telling you that she had feelings for you and after this bad guy she remembered how special you were to her and how special you treated her... could be that, getting out of that bad relationship opened her eyes to see what was in front of her the entire time. Don't read into things so much. I think she's just telling you how she feels/or felt back then. If you are meant to be in will happen. Just take it one day at a time. Be understanding and supportive. Everything will be okay.
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reader, xxsecretsxx +, writes (16 December 2008):
 to be honest i can see where you are coming from. However you've been together with her for a while now and that is a plus. maybe before you were the guy she kept going back to but now you have been with her seven months.
That is big. Rebound guys come and go like old socks. usually a girl will get leave him after only about two months, but you have seven months and she had feelings for you in the past.
I think you might have a solid relationship. Its work, but try to make sure you set it firmly that if she tries to rebound with you in the future it won't work.
My boyfriend and me have an agreement that if we break up it is done, no if ands or buts, we are through and there is no getting back together. it really makes you hold on to it tighter and not get angry about little things.
good luck!
-trich
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2008): You might be "second best", but does she really like you and you really like her? That's the question you need to ask. Also, why did she leave the last guy? If it was a bad relationship she was in, maybe she sees you as being a better one. The thing is you have to decide whether you want to take the option of being more than just friends even though she didn't want you when she had someone else. Maybe she is just a confused person who didn't have time for friends during her last relationship, and now relalises her mistake and wants to fix it. The fact that she was honest shows she might feel bad or thought you should know the honest truth. I'd suggest thinking long and hard about what you think and once you decide you may want to sit down and have a conversation with her. It's really up to you how you deal with being a so called rebound guy. Maybe you are a rebound, but then again it is possible this is a good intentions rebound and not something meant to be rude.
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