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writes:I have a LDR and I love her, but Im not sure if she loves me as I do. She is cold, doesnt show emotions, doesnt say any sweet words, doesnt call me, sometimes txts and usually never asks about how my day was... However when we are together she is very sweet, she laughs at all my jokes, she likes to hold hands in public, she allowed me to take a few steamy pictures of her only for me. she managed to gather her friends on a monday night for them to meet me and we used to have protected sex but now she is on the pill so we are no longer using condoms. she said she started to take the pill because she trusts me and want us to have sex more pleasant. She expects me in return me to be faithful, she warned me if she sometime catches some std will be because of me. lol. Basically I have mixed signals, she is sweet and cold.Im from America and she is from Austria. Probably we have cultural differences about her not being very emotional like american girls are. Before I drop the " I love you" bomb, i want to be sure she loves me back. Are these signs she loves me or just playing around?
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reader, eby  +, writes (26 August 2012):
it seems that she loves u,but there is a cultural issues and a distance.If she is in school and she is not a lazy girl you will have to deal with that cause i believe she loves you
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your answers, I know her for about a year, but we have been together for about three months. She stayed at my place for 1 month then she moved back to her country as planned, at the next 6 weeks I was in Austria for 5 days just to see her and we are gonna meet in New York in 4 weeks for holidays. (Maybe is not important, but Im taking care of all expenses) We have planned to see each other as often as we can, so it will be probably every 6-8 weeks. I'll be flying over to Europe on a frequent basis. A lot of Airmiles though =) Everything has been fast and so intense between us. I asked her once if she would consider to move in with me in back home if everything works out fine between us and she said she would. So yes, we're exclusive and hoping to live together in the future.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (26 August 2012):
 The woman seems genuinely fond of you. To many Europeans Americans seem overly emotional, demonstrative and in need of constant external validation. What you see as 'cold' is quite normal to everyone else. Before you drop the love bomb, how long have you been dating? And how many times have you visited one another?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2012): I would say that from you description, it does seem like this girl really, really likes you, maybe even loves. However, it is probably the LDR thing that is causing your concerns and keeping the relationship from developing further...is this a permanent thing or do you eventually hope to live together/closer to each other? do you see each other regularly? Perhaps without regular face to face contact she doesn't yet feel comfortable enough to be more affectionate, or maybe she is worried that the relationship won't last.
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