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anonymous
writes:Ok here is my issue, my bf is on a dating site and several months ago i asked him about it and he told me he only has it as a fun thing and that he does not subscribe to it, he gets messages and fans etc but would need to subscribe to the site if he wanted to send messages... he said he has had this profile for many years and that he would never cheat on me and once I accused him of cheating cause I found pictures of someone else on his phone and when i approached him he said that it was nothing and that he would never cheat on me and got pretty offeneded that i accused him...i recently checked his profile to find that he put his mobile number under his name...that completely messed up with my head.I want to ask what the deal with that was and why he put his number out there for hundreds of strangers to have his number!!! its crazy..I know in my heart that he would not cheat on me and he told me when we started dating that the moment that trust in a relationship is gone the relationship is doomed... I am afraid if I ask him he will say that, a)why was a snooping around on his profile, and for me to have done that proves that I do not trust him and then b) that I've broken the trust..I check his profile sometimes just to see how often he goes on and to see if he updates anything... he has removed the number already but I need to know why cause I feel that I have the right to know.Am I right or wrong in asking and by asking does it make me look like I dont trust him?Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): sweetie kick the jerk to the curb. i just went through this with a guy . i dumped his ass and blocked his emails and phone call. because if it sounds too good to be true. it might be. he lied to me and he ended up being on more than one dating sites. i confronted him on it he said i not going out with any of them just friends. on a dating site please that is BS. you deserve much better
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2011): My Dear:You poor thing..your blinded by love. Be blind no more and see what he's really about. Is he younger that 25? A lot has to be considered age, job,. In any event, Let's assume he has a job, you and friends.WHAT WOULD HE REALLY BE DOING? See if he's downloading pics (BIG NO NO_IF THIS HAPPENS SAY " SEE YA"...DOES HE JUST "LOOK"?IS HE COMMUNICATING WITH ANY OF THEM? THE REST IS UP TO YOU... GOOD LUCK!
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reader, tifany1920 +, writes (19 March 2011):
i have the same, my b/f was on dating sites looking for fun, said he never met them just emailed. Cheating is cheating, previous reply is so right, he is using time that should be spent on you, wasting it chatting to other women. He has commitment issues in my opinion and like my b/f i will never be enough, he may stop for a while, but its like an addiction, he'll start again. My B/f promised he'd never do it again, but I dont trust him and ultimately this will destroy our relationship. Ask him to stop if he doesnt then get out, find someone worthy of you.
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (14 March 2011):
 Guys that are happy, content and in love do not need dating sites.
I think he told you about the trust thing for one reason only, because he figured that sooner or later you would find out what he is up to and call him out on it. So he made a preemptive move to scare you into keeping quiet about it, so he could continue to mess around on you and get away with it.
Even if he isn't actually having sex with these other women, he is guilty of betraying you with all the time and attention he spends on them. Time, that as his girlfriend, rightfully belongs only to you. And he knows it as well as you do.
This guy sounds like either an unredeemable cheater, or a man with whom the love and attention of one woman is never going to be enough. Neither one is something you should have to live with. I think you deserve better than that from the man who is supposed to love you above all others.
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