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*ouise10
writes:Im 15 and my boyfriend is 16.he has been fingering me on and off for the past two years.I could say I am normally relaxed I think :S.I also tell my boyfriend what to do and if its hurting,it even hurts when he uses one finger so we stick to that,but it never feels good,even when I try myself.Iv also tried sex but it hurts soo much I have too stop.I just dont like anything going up me, is this common or just me ?
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reader, louise10 +, writes (30 December 2009):
louise10 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionme and my boyfriend are very much in love,
i tell him when too finger me,personaly he does not like
doing it as he dont like to hurt me. but i feel
it needs to be done otherwise its always going to hurt?
normally he does just rub my clitoris because i like that,
but thats about the only thing i do like :s.
i am ready to have sex iv been with him for 3 years,
but how can i have sex if i dont even like being fingerd?
thanks for the replys guys i will try some of those methods.
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reader, Sexybrowneyes  +, writes (29 December 2009):
Don't do hat just to make him happy.... Do u prefer being calm and happy yourself or do u prefer for him to feel happy!!! Make him respect you, your worth alot don't forget that. And if he doesn't wanna stop then he's not worth it ma. Trust me I been tru that, but I talked to my bf and told him and he did stop, now we only do it when I'm feeling it, and yes sex is mentally, and if your mind is not ready for it then you would never enjoy sex
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reader, person12345 +, writes (29 December 2009):
 I agree with the below poster that teen boys generally are pretty terrible at sex and foreplay. Most guys think that fingering is to pretend their finger is a penis and just stick it in there. And then pull it out and stick it in again. And then repeat several hundred times until the girl has come. Nope, that's not it at all. Usually fingering is primarily about the clitoris (who knew?) with some attention paid to the vagina if the girl wants it. In order for this to work, you need to spend some quality time with yourself. Go someplace where you can be undisturbed and alone and make yourself comfortable. Do something to turn yourself on a bit, like watch some, ahem, videos, read some "novels," start thinking about that one thing where Brad Pitt rips off all your clothes, whatever works for you. Then rub your clitoris in a way that feels good. Focus on that for awhile. The object isn't to orgasm, it's to figure out what your "buttons" are. Then show them to your boyfriend. Don't say, "hey you're doing this wrong. It's like this." Just say I'd really like it if you did *blank.* Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009): No, it can feel good. Are you just letting him do it to make him happy? Stop that.
Sex is all about intimacy, and that sounds perverse. It is about celebrating the bond you two share and making each other feel good to strengthen your attachment to each other. Ultimately, it is designed to make you two family.
You are doing it wrong.
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