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Does ignoring someone you are attracted to make the attraction go away?

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Question - (21 March 2011) 7 Answers - (Newest, 22 March 2011)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hi guys.

Just a quick question for you...

Why would two people who are really attracted to each other avoid or ignore one another? And, does this mean the attraction will go away or will it get worse?

Wondering what you all think!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011):

Well me and this guy have been attracted to each other. Physically,Romantically,Mentally.

It was insane.

I left the country for various reasons,one of them being that I needed to forget him.

I went back 1,5 years ago,and saw him with his girlfriend at the church.

I later on called him and said I want to see him for a friendly chat ( I was on a holiday there )

He ended up avoiding me.

He later on admitted to his friend that he couldn't risk it,things could get easily outta hand.

The attraction was still there.

I sometimes wonder what would of happened if I never left the country.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2011):

I think that if the attraction has been going on awhile and it is more than just physical, it would take a long time for it to go away.

If you don't see the person that helps but once you see them again it will come back to you! Especially if you are fantasizing about doing things to their body!!

I don't think it is that easy to get over an attraction unless you never see the person again or find someone else. If you are married, then you must never see the other person again because if you do, it could mean a lot of trouble.

It is like someone dangling a sinful and tempting dessert in your face all the time when you are on a bloody diet!! It's tricky because we cannot control who we are attracted to and this makes everything so complicated!!!! Love sux..

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A male reader, yazanco United Arab Emirates +, writes (21 March 2011):

Actually someone has to give in, usually the female if there is a relation already, else the male (especially if it is a very new relationship, where u don't know each other i.e. the one to introduce himself).

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A male reader, Advice_man United States +, writes (21 March 2011):

Advice_man agony auntYeah, give us a scenario! The question is too general!

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A male reader, lakers_lover09 United States +, writes (21 March 2011):

yes it goes away if it is just mere attraction with no history. just avoid them and live your life and before you know it some hot person will stumble into your life and you will forget them. IF it is an ex than it will take a looong time of avoiding and ignoring but it works rhe same,

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (21 March 2011):

eyeswideopen agony auntAnyone married in this scenario?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2011):

My question would be if you are attracted to someone and they avoid and ignore you, why would you think the attraction is mutual? Attraction tends to draw two people together, not push them apart.

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